Test: Your level of psychological self-esteem. Self-esteem: Psychological test to determine the level of self-esteem Test to determine the self-esteem of an adult
A self-esteem test is usually a set of certain open or closed (with answer options) questions that help you pay attention to your confidence during the test.
Online tests are becoming increasingly popular among visitors to the World Wide Web due to their accessibility and prevalence and the growing interest in psychology. They help anyone understand what their self-esteem is.
Why are people so often unsure of themselves? Regardless of social status, age, education and physical characteristics, many women and men suffer from low self-esteem.
And this is not surprising - it can be too difficult to resist comparing yourself with others. There are always more successful, smarter, more beautiful people. The spirit of competition plays a cruel joke on us, distorting the process of recognizing the individual as a unique, inimitable phenomenon.
Self-esteem depends on the environment and upbringing of the individual. Oddly enough, the higher the intelligence and the better the physical data, the more we tend to underestimate our strengths and worry about our shortcomings.
The ability to enjoy life and accept ourselves as nature created us plays one of the leading roles in the formation of a person’s level of self-esteem.
Sonersen test
So, to determine your level of self-confidence, the easiest way is to take an online test aimed at studying your self-esteem.
A psychological test proposed by Marilyn Sorensen, a psychologist, can help determine whether you suffer from low self-esteem. According to the author, low self-esteem syndrome is not only a manifestation of a depressed psychological state of the individual.
But he himself is capable of provoking many mental problems. Which affect personal life, relationships with others and general emotional state.
The online psychological test presented is simple and clear. Anyone can calculate the results - the more points, the lower the individual’s self-esteem.
We answer questions honestly
Take a pen and a piece of paper. Try to answer questions honestly. If you find the statement to be true, answer “Yes.” If you know that the question is “not about you,” answer negatively. For each affirmative answer there is a point.
1. I usually feel anxious in an unfamiliar situation, when I don’t understand what others expect from me.
2. I find it difficult to accept criticism addressed to me.
3. I'm afraid of looking stupid.
4. I usually exaggerate my failures and ignore my successes.
5. I am very critical of myself and others.
6. I have periods when I am energetically exhausted or depressed.
7. Most of the time I feel anxious or afraid.
8. Injustice towards me seems deserved.
9. I'm afraid to trust people, I don't know when and who to trust.
10. I often feel that I say the wrong things and do the wrong things.
11. I doubt whether I look good enough.
12. I am often confused.
13. It seems to me that everyone is focused on what I do or say and is always ready to criticize me.
14. I am afraid to make a mistake that others will notice.
15. I am depressed by the things I do and say, and the things I did not do and could not say.
16. I tend to refuse changes in life only out of fear of making a mistake.
17. I get very defensive and even fight back excessively when criticized.
18. I have no idea what I am capable of or what I can achieve.
19. I allow my fears and doubts to control the decisions I make.
20. I think that something bad might happen.
21. I don’t allow myself to relax and feel awkward during intimacy.
22. I usually go from one extreme to another: either I talk too much about myself or I don’t say anything.
23. I often experience such strong excitement that I cannot utter a word.
24. Sometimes I may doubt the correctness of a decision for several days.
25. I try my best to avoid conflicts and confrontation.
26. People tell me that I am overly sensitive.
27. I feel a sense of insignificance; it seems to me that I am inadequate and childish.
28. I think there is something wrong with me.
29. I find myself feeling that I don’t know what is expected of me.
30. I constantly compare myself to others.
31. I often think negatively about myself and others.
32. I feel that others treat me poorly and try to surpass me.
33. In the evening, I often become immersed in thoughts about the past, I remember who said and what to me, did what, and to whom and what I said and did.
34. I often make decisions that will please others, ignoring my own impulses and desires.
35. I feel like others don't respect me.
36. I refrain from sharing my views, opinions, and ideas with others.
37. I sometimes prefer to tell a lie if I think the truth will lead to criticism or rejection.
38. Sometimes I remain silent for fear of seeming stupid or incompetent.
39. I don’t set specific goals for myself for the future.
40. I am easy to convince.
41. I don’t always understand how I feel.
42. My parents often scolded me for mistakes or bad behavior.
43. I think my life is much harder than the lives of the people around me.
44. I avoid certain situations so as not to experience discomfort.
45. I am more of a perfectionist; I need to look perfect and do everything perfectly.
46. I don’t like attending events alone, dining alone, I need company.
47. My anger and frustration are often caused by the words and actions of others.
48. When I worry, I often sweat, tremble, my heart rate increases, I am prone to digestive disorders, immediately burst into tears, and have difficulty concentrating.
49. I am very afraid of criticism and rejection.
50. I rely on the opinions of others when making decisions.
Results and measures
If you scored between 0 and 7 points, congratulations! The level of self-esteem is what you need! Keep it up! You are an independent person, and your decisions do not depend on others. You are little affected by critical criticism; you soberly assess your own abilities.
- 8-15 points – average level of self-esteem. It is not low, but sometimes you are still visited by painful doubts from the series “What do I look like?”, “Is everything okay with me?”, “What will they think of me if I...”.
- 16-25 points mean that the individual’s self-esteem is low.
- 26-50 points signal to you: Your level of self-esteem is below par! This causes you considerable discomfort (mental and physical). It's time to start working on yourself!
If the result of the online test does not suit you, we extend a helping hand “to ourselves.” We sit down at the table, arm ourselves with a pen and paper and draw up a detailed plan for “pulling the hippopotamus out of the swamp.”
All means that lift your mood and tone are good. At some stage, you may need the help of a psychotherapist or psychologist.
Not everyone will like your changes - especially those who are used to riding you and pushing you. But you have nothing to lose except the shackles of low self-esteem.
Attending psychological trainings and seminars sometimes works wonders. The main thing is your strong desire to change your life for the better!
Author: Maria Ariel
Checking self-esteem in schoolchildren. Tests
Afanasyeva Rimma Akhatovna, social studies teacher MCOU "Unyugan Secondary School No. 1", Unyugan village, Khanty-Mansi Autonomous Okrug-Yugra
Description: I bring to your attention four tests to determine the level of self-esteem of students with keys for processing. The teacher gives the processing key to the students after they mark the answers to the questions in the test and calculate the number of points. Processing of test results can be written down on the board or on a presentation slide, if it is provided for the lesson.
Purpose: The tests are intended primarily for social studies teachers, and will also be of interest to class teachers, psychologists, sociologists, parents and children.
Relevance: The relevance of these tests is due to the fact that most teachers and parents do not pay due attention to certain aspects and characteristics of personality. One of these factors is self-esteem. The dynamics of self-esteem will help not only improve your results in the learning process, but also strengthen your position in society. Social factors such as relationships with others, criticality, self-demandingness, and attitude to successes and failures depend on self-esteem. Self-esteem influences further personality development and effective human activity. Incorrect self-evaluation occurs due to discrepancies in a person’s capabilities. Often this is the main reason for inappropriate behavior (emotional breakdowns, increased anxiety, etc.). The objective expression of self-esteem is manifested in how a person evaluates the skills and achievements of others (having inflated self-esteem, a person begins to underestimate the results of others). In our time, improving the quality of learning and knowledge acquisition continues to remain relevant. In order to identify the reasons for student failure, it is necessary to take into account the student’s personal characteristics. Undoubtedly, self-esteem has the greatest influence on the success of learning at any school age.
Target: identify the dynamics of self-esteem in the process of learning and the formation of a teenager’s personality.
Tasks: select methods for studying schoolchildren’s self-esteem; interpret the data obtained, conduct an analysis; formulate conclusions based on the test results obtained.
Preparation and material: The teacher prepares a test to check the self-esteem of schoolchildren, thinks through the processing of the results and how he will provide the children with a key for the test result.
"In a certain sense, everyone is what he thinks he is" - Francis Herbert Bradley
Methodology for determining self-esteem of students in grades 7-9
We answer the questions: “yes” (+), “no” (–)
1. Do you persistently and without hesitation implement your decisions, not stopping in the face of difficulties?
2. Do you think that commanding and leading is better than obeying?
3. Compared to most people, are you quite capable and smart?
4. When you are assigned a task, do you always insist on doing it your own way?
5. Do you always and everywhere strive to be the first?
6. If you took up science seriously, would you sooner or later become a professor?
7. Do you find it difficult to say “no” to yourself, even if your desire is impossible?
8. Do you think that you will achieve much more in life than your peers?
9. Do you have time to do a lot in your life, more than others?
10. If you had to start your life over again, would you achieve much more?
Processing the results:
Count the number of "yes" (+).
6-7 (+) – high self-esteem;
3-5 (+) – adequate (correct);
2-1 (+) – underestimated.
Test "Self-Assessment of Self-Confidence" (grades 5-7)
On the answer sheet, mark your agreement with the given statements with a “+” sign, and your disagreement with a “-” sign.
Calculate the sum of points, one “+” = 1 point.
1. I usually expect success in my affairs.
2. Most often I am in a good mood.
3. All the guys consult with me and take me into account.
4. I am a confident person.
5. I think that I am smart and resourceful.
6. I am sure that everyone always needs me.
7. I do everything well.
8. In the future, I will definitely fulfill my dreams.
9. People often help me.
10. I try to discuss my plans with close people.
11. I like to take part in sports competitions.
12. I demonstrate independence in study and work.
13. I am little worried about possible failures.
14. I try to plan my activities.
15. I rarely regret what I have already done.
16. I am confident that I will achieve success in the future.
17. I like to take part in various Olympiads and competitions.
18. I study better than everyone else.
19. I am more often lucky than unlucky.
20. Studying is not difficult for me.
Sum of points __________________
Explanation:
17-20 points - a high degree of self-confidence, independence and determination when making responsible decisions.
11-16 points - the need to discuss your actions with friends and relatives; choose problems of medium difficulty.
1-10 points - lack of confidence in one’s abilities, the opinion of what has been achieved is critical, the level of aspirations in the planned activity is clearly underestimated.
Test “My self-confidence” (grades 7-9)
Read ten statements and decide to what extent you agree with each of them.
1 point. I completely disagree.
2 points. I rather disagree than agree.
3 points. Doesn't matter.
4 points. More likely to agree than to disagree.
5 points. I completely agree.
1. If I put in enough effort, I always manage to solve difficult problems.
2. If people don't agree with me, I can still find ways to get what I want.
3. I easily manage to stay on the path leading to the goal and achieve it.
4. I have enough resources to cope with unexpected situations that arise in a variety of areas.
my life.
5. I am confident that I can deal effectively with the unexpected.
6. I always say yes to new opportunities.
7. I calmly accept difficulties that arise in both my personal and professional life.
8. I am able to solve most of the problems I encounter.
9. Most of the time I feel like a lively, energetic person.
10. I am confident that I can handle anything that comes my way.
Processing the results:
41-50 points. You have all the signs of a confident person.
31-40 points. More often than not, you are confident that you are able to get out of the dead ends that you sometimes find yourself in. However, there are situations in which you give in.
21-30 points. You often feel nervous in certain circumstances.
10-20 points. Your self-confidence seems to be quite low at the moment, but it can be dealt with.
“No matter what heights you reach, there will always be something that you are not very good at and there will always be more of it than what you are good at. Therefore, do not let your shortcomings lower your self-esteem. Forget about them and develop yours strengths" - Richard Branson
The Express diagnostics technique for a person’s level of self-esteem is used to quickly assess one’s capabilities. Paradoxically, a person is the way he imagines, feels and creates himself (see Fig. No. 1). Based on existing self-esteem, a person makes daily choices about how to behave, self-esteem provides relative stability personality and may beimpetus for personal development. True self-esteem maintains a person's dignity and gives him moral satisfaction. An adequate or inadequate attitude towards oneself leads either to harmony of spirit, providing reasonable self-confidence, or to constant internal and/or interpersonal conflict.
Self-esteem in psychology is a person’s idea of the importance of his personal activities in society and his assessment of himself and his own qualities and feelings, advantages and disadvantages, their expression openly or closed. The main evaluation criterion is a person’s system of personal meanings.
Test Express diagnostics of the level of self-esteem of an individual (Methodology for diagnosing self-esteem):
Instructions.
When answering the questions, indicate how common the following conditions are for you: very often, often, sometimes, rarely, never.
Questionnaire for express diagnostic methods of self-esteem.
1. I want my friends to cheer me up.
2. I feel responsible for my work.
3. I'm worried about my future.
4. Many people hate me.
5. I have less initiative than others.
6. I worry about my mental state.
7. I'm afraid of looking stupid.
8. Others' appearance is much better than mine.
9. I am afraid to give a speech in front of strangers.
10. I make mistakes in my life.
11. What a pity that I don’t know how to speak properly with people.
12. What a pity that I lack self-confidence.
13. I would like my actions to be approved by others.
14. I'm too modest.
15. My life is useless.
16. Many people have incorrect opinions about me.
18. People expect a lot from me.
19. People are not particularly interested in my achievements.
20. I am often embarrassed.
21. I feel that many people do not understand me.
23. I often worry in vain.
24. I feel awkward when I enter a room where people are already sitting.
25. I feel constrained.
26. I feel like people talk about me behind my back.
27. I am sure that people accept everything in life more easily than I do.
28. It seems to me that some trouble is about to happen to me.
29. I worry about how people treat me.
30. What a pity that I’m not so sociable.
31. In disputes, I speak out only when I am sure that I am right.
32. I think about what the public expects from me.
Key to the test, processing and interpretation of results.
To determine the level of your self-esteem, you need to add up all the points for the statements on the following scale:
Very often - 4 points
Often - 3 points
Sometimes - 2 points
Rarely - 1 point
Never - 0 points
Now calculate what the total score is for all 32 judgments.
Self-esteem levels:
A score from 0 to 25 indicates high level of self-esteem, in which a person reacts correctly to the comments of others and rarely doubts his actions.
A score from 26 to 45 indicates average level of self-esteem, in which a person only occasionally tries to conform to the opinions of others.
A score between 46 and 128 indicates low self-esteem, in which a person painfully tolerates critical remarks addressed to him, always tries to take other people’s opinions into account and considers himself worse than others.
Figure No. 1. Causes of low (low) self-esteem.
Each person evaluates his abilities differently, some exaggerate them, while others, on the contrary, underestimate them. It all depends on self-esteem. It is she who stands on the path to success or failure. After all, most people set goals for themselves, but never achieve them, because they do not believe in their abilities, or, on the contrary, they set the bar too high, overestimating their own abilities. However, there are those who always get what they want, because they adequately evaluate themselves. After all, if a person knows his shortcomings and advantages, he can always find a job he likes, which will also bring material wealth, find true friends and a suitable life partner.
If you want to learn how to correctly assess your capabilities and prospects on the path to achieving your goal, then you first need to have adequate self-esteem. Answer the questions of the test “Your level of psychological self-esteem”, and you will find out whether your assessment of yourself is correct and, if this is not the case, then you can, if desired, adjust your actions with the help of the advice of psychologists who developed these test questions.
Test questions “Your level of psychological self-esteem”
Study of personality self-esteem.
Option I
Test instructions
Each person has certain ideas about the ideal of the most valuable personality traits. People focus on these qualities in the process of self-education. What qualities do you value most in people? These ideas are not the same for different people, and therefore the results of self-education are not the same. What ideas about the ideal do you have? The following task, which is performed in two stages, will help you figure this out.
Stage 1
Divide a sheet of paper into four equal parts, label each part with Roman numerals I, II, III, IV.
Four sets of words are given that characterize the positive qualities of people. In each set of qualities, you must highlight those that are more significant and valuable to you personally, which you prefer over others. What qualities these are and how many there are – everyone decides for themselves.
Read the words of the first set of qualities carefully. Write down the qualities that are most valuable to you in a column along with their numbers on the left. Now proceed to the second set of qualities - and so on until the very end. As a result, you should end up with four sets of ideal qualities.
In order to create conditions for an equal understanding of the qualities by all participants in the psychological examination, we provide an interpretation of these qualities:
I. Interpersonal relationships, communication.
- Politeness– observance of rules of decency, courtesy.
- Caring– a thought or action aimed at the well-being of people; care, care.
- Sincerity– expression of genuine feelings, truthfulness, frankness.
- Collectivism– the ability to support common work, common interests, collective principles.
- Responsiveness- willingness to respond to other people's needs.
- Cordiality- a cordial, affectionate attitude, combined with hospitality, with a willingness to serve in some way.
- Sympathy– a responsive, sympathetic attitude towards people’s experiences and misfortune.
- Tact– a sense of proportion, which creates the ability to behave in society without hurting people’s dignity.
- Tolerance– the ability to treat other people’s opinions, character, habits without hostility,
- Sensitivity– responsiveness, empathy, ability to easily understand people.
- Goodwill– desire for good to people, willingness to contribute to their well-being.
- Friendliness– the ability to express feelings of personal affection.
- Charm- the ability to charm, attract.
- Sociability– ability to easily enter into communication.
- Mandatory- loyalty to word, duty, promise.
- Responsibility– necessity, obligation to be responsible for one’s actions and actions.
- Frankness– openness, accessibility for people.
- Justice– an objective assessment of people in accordance with the truth.
- Compatibility– the ability to combine one’s efforts with the activity of others in solving common problems.
- Demandingness– rigor, expectation from people to fulfill their duties and duty.
II. Behavior
- Activity– manifestation of an interested attitude towards the surrounding world and oneself, towards the affairs of the team, energetic actions and actions.
- Pride- self-esteem.
- Good nature– gentleness of character, goodwill towards people.
- Decency– honesty, inability to commit vile and antisocial acts.
- Courage– the ability to make and implement one’s decisions without fear.
- Hardness– the ability to insist on one’s own, not to give in to pressure, steadfastness, stability.
- Confidence– faith in the correctness of actions, absence of hesitation or doubt.
- Honesty– directness, sincerity in relationships and actions.
- Energy– decisiveness, activity of actions and actions.
- Enthusiasm- strong inspiration, elation.
- Integrity– honest performance of one’s duties.
- Initiative– desire for new forms of activity.
- Intelligence– high culture, education, erudition.
- Perseverance– persistence in achieving goals.
- Determination– inflexibility, firmness in actions, the ability to quickly make decisions, overcoming internal fluctuations.
- Integrity– the ability to adhere to firm principles, beliefs, views on things and events.
- Self-criticism– the desire to evaluate one’s behavior, the ability to reveal one’s mistakes and shortcomings.
- Independence– the ability to carry out actions without the help of others, on one’s own.
- Equilibrium– even, calm character and behavior.
- Determination– having a clear goal, the desire to achieve it.
III. Activity
- Thoughtfulness- deep insight into the essence of the matter.
- Efficiency– knowledge of the matter, enterprise, intelligence.
- Mastery- high art in any field.
- Understanding- ability to understand meaning, intelligence.
- Speed– swiftness of actions and actions, speed.
- Composure- concentration, smartness.
- Accuracy– the ability to act as specified, in accordance with the model.
- Hard work– love of work, socially useful activities that require effort.
- Passion- the ability to devote oneself completely to any task.
- Perseverance– diligence in something that requires a long time and patience.
- Accuracy– observance of order in everything, thoroughness of work, diligence.
- Attentiveness– focus on the activity at hand.
- Foresight- foresight, the ability to foresee consequences, predict the future.
- Discipline– habit of discipline, consciousness of duty to society.
- Performance– diligence, good performance of tasks.
- Curiosity– an inquisitive mind, a tendency to acquire new knowledge.
- Resourcefulness– the ability to quickly find a way out of difficult situations.
- Subsequence– the ability to carry out tasks, actions in a strict order, logically.
- Performance– the ability to work hard and productively.
- Scrupulousness– precision to the smallest detail, special care.
IV. Experiences, feelings
- Cheerfulness– a feeling of fullness of strength, activity, energy.
- Fearlessness- lack of fear, courage.
- Gaiety- a carefree and joyful state.
- Soulfulness– sincere friendliness, disposition towards people.
- Mercy- willingness to help, forgive out of compassion, philanthropy.
- Tenderness- a manifestation of love, affection.
- Love of freedom– love and desire for freedom, independence.
- Cordiality– sincerity, sincerity in relationships.
- Passion– the ability to give oneself completely to one’s passion.
- Shyness- the ability to feel shame.
- Excitement- a measure of experience, mental anxiety.
- Enthusiasm- a great upsurge of feelings, delight, admiration.
- Pity- a tendency to feel pity and compassion.
- Cheerfulness– constancy of feelings of joy, absence of despondency.
- Lovingness– the ability to love deeply and many.
- Optimistic– cheerful attitude, belief in success.
- Restraint– the ability to restrain oneself from expressing feelings.
- Satisfaction- a feeling of pleasure from the fulfillment of desires.
- Coolness– the ability to remain calm and self-possessed.
- Sensitivity– ease of occurrence of experiences, feelings, increased susceptibility to external influences.
StageII
Carefully consider the personality traits you wrote out from the first set, and find among them those that you possess really. Circle the numbers next to them. Now move on to the second set of qualities, then to the third and fourth.
Processing test results
Count how many you have found real qualities (R).
Count the quantity ideal qualities, written out by you ( AND; qualities written out at the first stage), and then calculate their percentage:
C = (R / I) * 100%.
Levels of self-esteem | ||||||
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Inadequately low | Short | Below average | Average | Above average | High | Inadequately high |
Men | ||||||
0-10 | 11–34 | 35-45 | 46-54 | 55-63 | 64-66 | 67 |
Women | ||||||
0-15 | 16-37 | 38-46 | 47-56 | 57-65 | 66-68 | 69 |
Option 2
Test instructions
Carefully read the set of 20 personality traits: accuracy, kindness, cheerfulness, perseverance, intelligence, truthfulness, integrity, independence, modesty, sociability, pride, conscientiousness, indifference, laziness, arrogance, cowardice, greed, suspicion, selfishness, impudence.
In the column " ideal“Under number (rank) 1, write down the quality from the above that you value most in people, under number 2 - the quality that you value a little less, etc., in descending order of importance. Under number 13, indicate the quality - shortcoming - from the above, which you could most easily forgive people (after all, as you know, there are no ideal people, everyone has shortcomings, but some you can forgive, and some you cannot ), at number 14 is the flaw that is more difficult to forgive, etc., at number 20 is the most disgusting, from your point of view, quality of people.
In the column " I"Under (rank) 1, write down the quality from the above that is most developed for you personally (regardless of whether it is an advantage or a disadvantage), at number 2 - the quality that is slightly less developed for you, etc. in descending order in order, under the last numbers are those qualities that are least developed or absent in you.
Sample form for the test
Processing test results
In column No. 3, the respondent must calculate the difference in rank numbers for each written quality. For example: such a property as “neatness” in the first column (Ideal) is ranked 1st, and in the second (I) – at 7th; d will be equal to 1-7=-6; such a quality as “principledness” ranks 3rd in both the first and second columns. In this case d will be equal to 3-3=0; a quality such as “indifference” is ranked 20th in the first column, and rank 2 in the second. In this case d will be equal to 20-2=18, etc.
Column No. 5 calculates the amount d 2, that is:
Σd 2 = d 1 2 + d 2 2 + d 3 2 + … + d 20 2;
R = 1 – 6Σd 2 /(n 3 – n), Where
- n– number of pairs being compared
In the case of n=20, the formula takes the following form:
R = 1 – 0.00075Σd 2
Values R will be within [-1; +1].
Levels of self-esteem | ||||||
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Inadequately low | Short | Below average | Average | Above average | High | Inadequately high |
[-1; 0] | (0; 0,2] | (0,8; 1] |
Interpretation of test results
Self-esteem can be optimal And suboptimal. With optimal, adequate self-esteem, the subject correctly correlates his capabilities and abilities, is quite critical of himself, strives to realistically look at his failures and successes, tries to set achievable goals that can be achieved in practice. He approaches the assessment of what has been achieved not only with his own standards, but also tries to anticipate how other people will react to it: workmates and loved ones. In other words, adequate self-esteem is the result of a constant search for a real measure, i.e. without too much overestimation, but also without being overly critical of one’s communication, behavior, activities, and experiences. This self-assessment is best for specific conditions and situations.
The optimal level includes self-esteem " high level" And " above average"(a person deservedly values, respects himself, is satisfied with himself), and also " intermediate level"(a person respects himself, but knows his weaknesses and strives for self-improvement, self-development).
Self-esteem may be suboptimal - too high or too low.
Based on inappropriately high self-esteem a person develops a misconception about himself, an idealized image of his personality and capabilities, his value to others, to the common cause. In such cases, a person ignores failures in order to maintain the usual high assessment of himself, his actions and deeds. There is an acute emotional “repulsion” of everything that violates the self-image. The perception of reality is distorted, the attitude towards it becomes inadequate - purely emotional. The rational grain of the assessment falls out completely. Therefore, a fair remark begins to be perceived as nit-picking, and an objective assessment of work results as unfairly underestimated. Failure appears as a consequence of someone’s machinations or unfavorable circumstances, which in no way depend on the actions of the individual himself.
Man with inflated inadequate self-esteem does not want to admit that all this is a consequence of one’s own mistakes, laziness, lack of knowledge, abilities or incorrect behavior. A severe emotional state arises - the affect of inadequacy, the main reason for which is the persistence of the existing stereotype of overestimating one’s personality. If high self-esteem is plastic, changes in accordance with the real state of affairs - increases with success and decreases with failure, then this can contribute to the development of the individual, since she has to make every effort to achieve her goals, develop her abilities and will.
Self-esteem may be low, i.e. below the real capabilities of the individual. This usually leads to self-doubt, timidity and lack of daring, and the inability to realize one’s abilities. Such people do not set themselves difficult to achieve goals, limit themselves to solving ordinary problems, and are too critical of themselves.
Too high or too low self-esteem disrupts the process of self-government and distorts self-control. This is especially noticeable in communication, where people with high and low self-esteem cause conflicts. At inflated self-esteem conflicts arise due to disdainful attitude towards other people and disrespectful treatment of them, too harsh and unfounded statements addressed to them, intolerance to other people's opinions, manifestation of arrogance and conceit. Low self-criticism prevents them from even noticing how they offend others with arrogance and indisputable judgment.
At low self-esteem conflicts may arise due to the excessive criticality of these people. They are very demanding of themselves and even more demanding of others, they do not forgive a single mistake or mistake, and they tend to constantly emphasize the shortcomings of others. And although this is done with the best intentions, it still becomes a cause of conflict due to the fact that few can tolerate systematic “sawing.” When they see only the bad in you and constantly point it out, then hostility arises towards the source of such assessments, thoughts and actions.
Affect of inadequacy arises as an attempt by people with high self-esteem to protect themselves from real circumstances and maintain their usual self-esteem. This leads to disruption of relationships with other people. Experiencing resentment and injustice allows you to feel good, remain at the proper level in your own eyes, and consider yourself injured or offended. This elevates a person in his own eyes and eliminates dissatisfaction with himself. The need for inflated self-esteem is satisfied and there is no need to change it, that is, to come to grips with management itself. Conflicts inevitably arise with people who have different ideas about a given individual, his abilities, capabilities and value to society. The affect of inadequacy is a psychological defense, it is a temporary measure because it does not solve the main problem, namely, a fundamental change in suboptimal self-esteem, which is the cause of unfavorable interpersonal relationships.
These techniques allow us to solve several more research and practical problems. Here are some of them:
I. There are several forms of human activity: communication, behavior, activity, experiences. A person can also be considered as a subject of self-government. Since the simultaneous implementation of all these forms of activity is difficult, the individual shows interest in one or two areas of his life. Indeed, everyone has observed people who live “in the world of people,” “in a closed world,” “in the world of affairs,” and “in the world of feelings.” It would be natural to assume that when performing the technique, people choose more qualities in the area that interests them more. This allows find out what area their interests and preferences lie in. For this purpose, you need to calculate how many “ideal” qualities were written down for each of the four blocks and compare the resulting numbers with each other. The leading level will be the level of human activity where the most “ideal” and “real” qualities are collected, as well as their percentage.
II. Can be obtained an idea of the value orientations of a group different from others in age, gender, profession; To do this, you need to calculate how many people chose this or that quality and with what rank of importance. If this number is converted into a percentage, then an interesting opportunity opens up to compare groups with each other in terms of preference for personality traits and the degree of importance of individual properties for it. Ranking these properties according to the number of people who chose this property shows what place it belongs in the holistic system of ideas about personality.
III. Can be obtained an idea of how each specific person differs from other people in terms of their value guidelines. To do this, you need to create an average “portrait” of the value orientations of the group to which you belong. Then we need a qualitative analysis of the qualities he has chosen and those personality traits that are most often found in the group as a whole. Thus, against the background of group preferences, it is possible to identify individual characteristics.
Sources
- Self-Esteem Test/ Stolyarenko L.D. Fundamentals of psychology: Workshop. – Rostov n/d, 2003. P.479-480