Condolences to family and friends. How to express condolences about a death in your own words: examples
Condolences regarding death are usually expressed in few words. But sometimes it can be unbearably difficult for us to find even these few phrases. Any words seem empty and banal, we are afraid to open fresh wounds in the hearts of family and friends who have just lost a loved one. However, it is worth gathering your strength, finding simple and delicate words of sympathy that will sound informal, sincere and heartfelt. It’s not for nothing that they say: “A grief shared is half a grief.”
The words “condolence”, “sympathy”, “empathy” speak for themselves. We say them to share the pain of loss with the loved ones of the deceased, to make it clear that we are also shocked by the sad news, that we mourn and grieve with them. Condolence is not only words of sympathy and consolation, but also presence nearby, readiness to help. Sometimes, to express empathy, it is enough to sincerely hug the mourner, take their hand and be silent for a few moments, or even cry together.
You might find some tips useful:
- There is no need to come up with any special, ornate and pretentious phrases. They may sound false and insincere. No need to talk at length. Protracted condolences can only bring tears to a person who has not yet come to terms with the bitterness of loss.
- When choosing words of condolences, think about how you feel in connection with the sad event, who the deceased was to you, what good and warm memories are associated with him. Don't be shy to show your feelings. And do not forget to offer all possible assistance to the family of the deceased.
- Pray for the repose of the soul of the deceased person, ask God to grant strength of spirit and consolation to his family. Surely, after this there will be no need to come up with sincere and heartfelt phrases of sympathy. They will come on their own.
- When expressing condolences, try to speak with restraint and calmly, do not cry or lament. An outburst of your emotions can cause a response in the grieving person, exacerbating his grief and mental suffering.
- When you come to the house of the deceased for a condolence visit, you should not ask in detail about the reasons for what happened, argue that the tragedy could have been prevented in one way or another, or look for “positive” moments in death (for example, say: “he’s better off, he suffered.” , - if a person died from a serious illness).
- The phrases “I understand how hard it is for you,” “I know how bitter it is for you” may sound insincere. You cannot know the depth of another person's suffering. It would be more correct to say: “I am shocked by this sad news”, “I sympathize with you”, “for me this is also a heavy loss”, “I mourn with you”.
- You should not console the grieving person with the future. The words: “you will still have children”, “you are young, you will get married”, “time heals everything”, “don’t be sad, everything will pass, everything will be fine” and the like are not only stupid, empty and insincere, but also tactless . In the acute stage of grief, a person is simply unable to think about the future; any statements on this topic seem like betrayal and cause mental pain.
- Wishes: “try to take care of yourself”, “go to work as soon as possible”, “I hope you can come to terms with the loss”, “I wish you to come to your senses as soon as possible” - also sound formal, ridiculous and tactless.
- It is advisable to express condolences on the occasion of death verbally. It is acceptable to say words of empathy and consolation over the phone, in a letter or an SMS message if, for one reason or another, you cannot attend the funeral ceremony.
- If you are close to the family of the deceased, but were unable to attend the funeral, visit them as soon as possible and offer words of sympathy. This is usually done within one and a half to two weeks after the funeral. But not in the first three days.
- Relatives and close friends usually come to the house of the deceased for a condolence visit before the funeral; colleagues, classmates, fellow students and distant acquaintances say words of sympathy at the farewell ceremony or after the funeral dinner.
How to properly express condolences in connection with a death:
relatives
- Maria Andreevna, please accept our condolences. Roman was a very dear and close person to us. It's hard to believe what happened. We share your loss and mourn with you. Tell me, how can we help?
- Petr Ivanovich, Tamara Igorevna, we sympathize with you. This bitter news shocked us. Nikolai was the soul of our team, one of the best. Please accept help.
- Irina Petrovna, Alexander Ivanovich, Oleg, our condolences. Vasily Alexandrovich was a bright and sincere person; he supported me more than once in word and deed. For me this is an irreparable loss. I pray for the repose of the soul of Vasily Alexandrovich together with you. Let me be there and share the sad troubles in these difficult days. How can I help?
loved ones
- I sympathize with you, Andrey, Olga. What happened seems unthinkable, impossible. We're close were friends with Larisa, and it will be difficult for me to come to terms with this unfair loss. Larisa was not just a spiritual friend for me - a dear person. Tell me, how can I be useful these days?
- Please accept our condolences. For us, the departure of Igor Nikolaevich is also a huge loss. We will always remember Igor Nikolaevich as a bright and sincere person. We mourn and pray for the repose of his soul. Let me be with you in these sad days. We are ready to provide any assistance.
- Elena Petrovna, allow me to share the severity of your loss and help organize the funeral. The fact that Alexander left so suddenly is very difficult news, which the mind refuses to believe. Sasha and I are school friends. He was a sympathetic person, a wonderful friend and class leader. It was only thanks to Sasha that we, classmates, did not lose each other over all the past years. We mourn with you.
family
- Timofey Ilyich, Anna Mikhailovna, I sincerely sympathize with you. For me, Mary’s death is also an unbearable grief. Masha valued her family very much. And for me, your home has always been home. Let me continue to visit you. How can I help?
- Nikolai Ivanovich, Elena Alexandrovna, I condole with your misfortune. Unfortunately, we did not know you during Alexander’s lifetime. He spoke so warmly and lovingly about you, and was proud that he had such wonderful parents. Alexander will forever remain in my memory as a true friend and an incredibly positive person. It's impossible to believe he's gone. Let me help with the funeral.
- We understand that there are no words that could console you today, Marina Vladimirovna. We are colleagues and subordinates of Timur Andreevich. Your husband was a bright man, a wise mentor, a fair leader, he supported and helped in everything... It will not be easy for us to come to terms with the death of Timur Andreevich. Let me share your grief, help and be there for you during these difficult days.
What words to express condolences in prose
How to express condolences to a mother
- Dear Anna Fedorovna, I sincerely sympathize with your grief. For me, your daughter was more than just a friend - a family and close person. The memory of Lyudmila is in my heart forever. Let me be with you in these difficult days.
- Irina Ivanovna, please accept our condolences. It’s impossible to believe and come to terms with it, it’s painful to say... In loving memory of Andrei. You can always count on our help.
- Maria Alexandrovna, dear, I sympathize with you with all my heart. Your son was a reliable friend and a warm person. I understand: any words today will not diminish your grief. Let me share the bitterness of loss with you and be close to you. Ready to provide any help.
How to express condolences to a friend
- Nadyusha, how painful and bitter it is - I can’t express it. Your mom was a close person to me too. Be strong, my dear. And just know: I'm always there.
- I mourn and cry with you, Anechka. Such unexpected and terrible news... Lydia Petrovna was an unusually sincere and loving woman. How impossible it is to talk bitterly about your mother in the past tense... Let me share the grief with you and help.
- My condolences, dear. For me, the death of Pyotr Andreevich is also a heavy loss. Your dad was a man of great soul. I will always remember him with gratitude. Ready to help with anything.
How to Express Condolences to a Colleague
- Kirill, please accept my sincere condolences. I know that my mother’s passing is the most bitter loss. And any words are powerless here. Blessed memory of Tatyana Ivanovna. Be strong.
- Anton, our condolences. We understand how hard it is for you to experience the death of your brother. Please accept our help.
- Irina, we sincerely share your grief; this is a very difficult loss for you. We remember how cordially your husband received us as guests... We mourn with you. We are ready to help with organizing the funeral and memorial dinner.
How to express condolences in writing
- Dear Antonina Vasilievna! I deeply regret and mourn the passing of your mother. Irina Semyonovna was an amazingly friendly, sympathetic and wise woman. It’s bitter to say “was”... I think many will remember your mother with warmth and gratitude. Ready to help with the funeral. Please write how I can be of assistance.
- Dear Andrey Ivanovich! All of us, employees of Garant LLC, sincerely sympathize with you. Blessed memory, your father Ivan Ivanovich. Strength of spirit to you and your family. We will forever remember our Ivan Ivanovich as a true master of his craft, a true professional, a sensitive, responsive, great-hearted person.
- Our condolences, dear Alexandra Petrovna and Valery Vasilievich! Coming to terms with Andrei's death will not be easy for all of us. He was always an open, honest, very positive person. He helped many of us out of difficult life situations. We will all remember your son with light and gratitude. We are ready to offer any help.
How to express condolences via SMS
- Alexander, shocked by the bitter news. Be strong. We will come to you immediately.
- Dear Lydia Andreevna, please accept my condolences. We cry and mourn with you. We'll be with you tomorrow.
- Tatyana, Igor, what sad news... My condolences with all my heart. Unfortunately, I will not be able to be with you in these sorrowful days; my mother is seriously ill. Be strong, dear ones.
Poem to express condolences
Muslims, like people of other faiths, feel pain, bitterness, sadness and also cry when losing loved ones. However, they have a slightly different worldview, a different attitude towards life and death, different traditions and customs. Sorrowful emotions in the Muslim world are not usually expressed openly. This means that words of condolences sound different.
Condolences are mourning words of sorrow who express sympathy over death. Sincere condolences provide for the format of a personal, personal appeal - verbal or text.
As part of an obituary or public speech at a wake, condolences are also appropriate, but must be expressed briefly. In an expression of sympathy from a believer, you can add: "We pray for ___".
Etiquette Muslim condolences It is distinguished by a fatal attitude towards death and acceptance of loss, as well as clear requirements for rituals, clothing, behavior, symbols, and gestures.
Examples of condolences
Universal short words of grief
In the case when words of condolences are pronounced after the burial or on the day of the funeral, you can (but not necessarily) add briefly: “May the earth rest in peace!” If you have the opportunity to provide assistance (organizational, financial - any), then this phrase is convenient to complete words of condolences, for example “These days you will probably need help. I would like to be of assistance. Count on me!
- I am shocked by this sad news. It's hard to accept. I share your pain of loss...
- My heart is broken by yesterday's news. I worry with you and remember ___ with the warmest words! It's hard to accept the loss of ___! Eternal memory!
- The news of ___'s death is a terrible blow! It hurts to even think that we won't see him/her again. Please accept my and my husband's condolences for your loss!
- Until now, the news of ___'s death seems like a ridiculous mistake! It's impossible to comprehend this! Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss!
- My condolences! It hurts to even think about it, it’s hard to talk about. I sympathize with your pain! Eternal memory ___!
- It's hard to put into words how much ___ and I feel for your loss ___! A golden man, of which there are few! We will always remember him/her!
- “This is an incredible, catastrophic loss. The loss of a real person, an idol, an exemplary family man and a citizen of his country."
- We sympathize with your loss! The news of ___'s death shocked our entire family. We remember and will remember ___ as a most worthy person. Please accept our sincere condolences!
- It's little consolation, but know that we are with you in the grief of your loss ___ and our hearts go out to your entire family! Eternal memory!
- “Words cannot express all the pain and sadness. Like a bad dream. Eternal peace to your soul, our dear and beloved........ "!
- An unfathomable loss! We all mourn the loss of ___, but of course it’s even harder for you! We sincerely sympathize with you and will remember you all our lives! We would like to provide any help you need at this moment. Count on us!
- Sad... I respect and remember ___ and am truly sorry for your loss! The least I can do today is to help in some way. At least I have four empty seats in the car.
Condolences on the death of mother and grandmother
- I was stunned by this terrible news. For me, ___ is a hospitable hostess, a kind woman, but for you... The loss of your mother... I sympathize with you so much and cry with you!
- We are very... very upset beyond words! It's hard when you lose loved ones, but the death of a mother is a grief for which there is no cure. Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss!
- ___ was a model of delicacy and tact. Her memory will be as endless as her kindness to all of us. The passing of a mother is an incomparable grief. Please accept my deepest condolences!
- A grief incomparable to anything! And I have no words to ease your pain. But I know that she would not like to see your despair. Be strong! Tell me, what could I take on these days?
- We are happy that we knew ___. Her kind disposition and generosity surprised us all, and that is how she will be remembered! It is difficult to express our grief in words - it is too great. Let the kindest memories and bright memories of her be at least a small consolation!
- The news of ___'s departure came as a shock to us. We can only guess what a blow her departure was for you. At such moments we feel abandoned, but remember that you have friends who loved and appreciated your mother. Count on our help!
- Words cannot heal a terrible wound in the heart. But bright memories of ___, how honestly and honorably she lived her life, will always be stronger than death. In the bright memory of her, we are with you forever!
- They say they love their grandchildren even more than their children. We felt this love of our grandmother to the fullest. This love will warm us all our lives, and we will pass on some of its warmth to our children and grandchildren...
- Losing loved ones is very difficult... And the loss of a mother is the loss of a part of yourself... Mom will always be missed, but may the memory of her and the warmth of a mother always be with you!
- Words cannot heal this wound of loss. But the bright memory of ___, who lived her life honestly and with dignity, will be stronger than death. We are with you in eternal memory of her!
- Her whole life was spent in countless labors and worries. We will always remember her as such a warm-hearted and soulful woman!
- Without parents, without mother, there is no one between us and the grave. May wisdom and perseverance help you get through these most difficult days. Hold on!
- The paragon of virtue has passed away from ___! But she will remain a guiding star for all of us who remember, love and honor her.
- It is ___ that can be dedicated to kind words: “She whose actions and deeds came from the soul, from the heart.” May she rest in peace!
- The life she lived has a name: “Virtue.” ___ is the source of life, faith and love for loving children and grandchildren. Kingdom of heaven!
- How much we didn’t tell her during her lifetime!
- Please accept my sincere condolences! What a man! ___, just as she lived modestly and quietly, she left humbly, as if a candle had gone out.
- ___ involved us in good deeds, and thanks to her we became better people. For us, ___ will forever remain a model of mercy and tact. We are happy that we knew her.
- Your mother was a smart and bright person... Many, like me, will feel that the world has become poorer without her.
Condolences on the death of husband, father, grandfather
- We are deeply saddened by the news of your father's death. He was a fair and strong man, a loyal and sensitive friend. We knew him well and loved him like a brother.
- Our family mourns with you. The loss of such reliable support in life is irreparable. But remember that we would be honored to help you any minute you need it.
- My condolences, ___! The death of a beloved husband is the loss of oneself. Hang in there, these are the hardest days! We mourn together with your grief, we are close...
- Today everyone who knew ___ mourns with you. This tragedy does not leave anyone close to us indifferent. I will never forget my comrade, and I consider it my duty to ___ to support you on any occasion, should you contact me.
- I'm so sorry that ___ and I had disagreements at one time. But I always appreciated and respected him as a person. I apologize for my moments of pride and offer you my help. Today and always.
- Thanks to your statements about his [qualities or good deeds], it seems to me that I have always known him. I sympathize with you about the death of such a loved one and a soul so close to you! May I rest in peace...
- I am truly sorry for the loss of your dad. This is a very sad and sad time for you. But good memories are what will help you survive this loss. Your father lived a long and colorful life and achieved success and respect in it. We also join in the words of friends’ grief and memories of ___.
- I sincerely sympathize with you... What a person, what a scale of personality! He deserves more words than can be said right now. In the memories of ___, he is both our teacher of justice and mentor in life. Eternal memory to him!
- Without a father, without parents, there is no one between us and the grave. But ___ set an example of courage, perseverance and wisdom. And I'm sure that he wouldn't want you to grieve like that right now. Be strong! I sincerely sympathize with you.
- Your shock at the onset of loneliness is a severe shock. But you have the strength to overcome grief and continue what he did not manage to do. We are nearby and we will help with everything - contact us! It is our duty to remember ___!
- We mourn with you in this difficult moment! ___ - the kindest man, free of silver, lived for his neighbors. We sympathize with your loss and join you in the kindest and brightest memories of your husband.
- We're sorry for your loss! We sympathize - the loss is irreparable! Intelligence, iron will, honesty and justice... - we are lucky to work with such a friend and colleague! We would like to ask him for forgiveness for so many things, but it’s too late... Eternal memory to a mighty man!
- Mom, we mourn and cry with you! Our sincere gratitude from children and grandchildren and warm memories of a good father and kind grandfather! Our memory of ___ will be eternal!
- Blessed are those whose memory will be as bright as ___. We will remember and love him forever. Be strong! ___ it would be easier if he knew that you could handle all this.
- My condolences! Recognition, respect, honor, and... eternal memory!
- They say about such open-hearted people: “How much of ours went with you! How much of yours remains with us! We will remember ___ forever and pray for him!
Condolences on the death of a friend, brother, sister, loved one or loved one
- Please accept my condolences! It has never been more expensive or closer, and probably never will be. But in yours and in our hearts he will remain a young, strong, full of life man. Eternal memory! Hold on!
- It is difficult to find the right words in this difficult moment. I mourn with you! Small consolation will be that not everyone has had the opportunity to experience such love as yours. But may ___ remain alive in your memory, full of strength and love! Eternal memory!
- There is such wisdom: “It’s bad if there is no one to take care of you. It’s even worse if there’s no one to take care of you.” I'm sure he wouldn't want you to be so sad. Let's ask his mother what we can do to help her now.
- My condolences to you! Through life hand in hand, but you have suffered this bitter loss. It is necessary, it is necessary to find the strength to survive these most difficult moments and difficult days. In our memory he will remain ___.
- It is very bitter to lose your loved ones and relatives, but it is doubly bitter when young, beautiful, strong people leave us. May God rest his soul!
- I would like to find words to somehow ease your pain, but it is difficult to imagine whether such words exist on earth at all. Bright and eternal memory!
- I mourn with you in this difficult moment. It’s scary to even imagine that half of you has left. But for the sake of the children, for the sake of loved ones, we need to get through these sorrowful days. Invisibly, he will always be there - in the soul and in our eternal memory of this bright man.
- Love will not die, and the memory of it will always illuminate our hearts!
- ...and this will pass...
- For all of us, he will remain an example of love of life. And may his love for life illuminate the emptiness and grief of loss and help you survive the time of farewell. We mourn with you in difficult times and will remember ___ forever!
- The past cannot be returned, but the bright memory of this love will remain with you for the rest of your life. Be strong!
- Be strong! With the loss of your brother, you must become a support for your parents twice. May God help you get through these difficult moments! Happy memory to a bright man!
- There are such mournful words: “A loved one does not die, but simply ceases to be around.” In your memory, in your soul, your love will be eternal! We also remember ___ with a kind word.
Condolences to a believer, a Christian
All of the above is appropriate in expressing support in difficult times of loss for both the believer and the secular person. A Christian, Orthodox, can add a ritual phrase to his condolences, turn to prayer or quote from the Bible:
- God is merciful!
- God bless you!
- Everyone is alive for God!
- This man was blameless, just and God-fearing, and shunned evil!
- Lord, rest with the Saints!
- Death destroys the body, but saves the soul.
- God! Receive the spirit of your servant in peace!
- Only in death, the mournful hour, does the soul find freedom.
- God takes a mortal through life before turning him to the light.
- The righteous will certainly live, says the Lord!
- Her heart /(his) trusted in the Lord!
- Immortal soul, immortal deeds.
- May the Lord show mercy and truth to him/her!
- Righteous deeds are not forgotten!
- Most Holy Theotokos, protect him (her) with your protection!
- The days of our lives are not numbered by us.
- Everything returns to normal.
- Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God!
- Blessed peace to your ashes!
- Kingdom of heaven and eternal peace!
- And those who have done good will find the resurrection of life.
- Rest in the Kingdom of Heaven.
- And on earth she smiled like an angel: what is there in heaven?
We intuitively and subconsciously understand how to behave in joyful, easy life situations and festive events. But there are events of a tragic nature - the death of a loved one, for example. Many are lost, faced with their unpreparedness for loss; for most, such events are beyond acceptance and awareness.
People experiencing loss are easily vulnerable, acutely aware of insincerity and pretense, their feelings are overwhelmed with pain, they need help to relieve it, accept it, come to terms with it, but in no case add to the pain with an accidentally thrown tactless word or incorrect phrase.
You need to be able to show increased tact and correctness, sensitivity and condescension. It is better to remain silent, showing delicate understanding, than to cause additional pain, hurt disturbed feelings, or touch nerves overloaded with emotions.
We will try to help you understand how to behave in a situation where the person next to you has suffered grief - the loss of a loved one, how to properly sympathize and choose the right words so that the person feels your support and sincere sympathy.
It is necessary to take into account the existing differences in condolences.
The form of expressing condolences for the loss will vary:
- Grandparents, relatives;
- mother or father;
- brother or sister;
- son or daughter - child;
- husband or wife;
- boyfriend or girlfriend;
- colleagues, employee.
Because the depth of experience varies.
Also, the expression of condolences depends on the severity of the grieving person’s feelings about what happened:
- Imminent death due to old age;
- imminent death due to serious illness;
- premature, sudden death;
- tragic death, accident.
The condolence itself should be short in form, but deep in content. Therefore, you need to find the most sincere words that accurately convey the depth of your sympathy and your willingness to provide support.
In this article we will provide samples and examples of various forms of expressing condolences and help you choose mournful words. You will need: sincerity; patience; attention to the person; sympathy;
Tip 1
Form and method of presentation
Condolences will have distinctive features in form and method of presentation, depending on their purpose.
Purpose:
- Personal individual condolences to family and friends.
- Official individual or collective.
- Obituary in the newspaper.
- Farewell mourning words at the funeral.
- Funeral words at the wake: for 9 days, on the anniversary.
Serving method:
The timeliness factor is important, so the postal delivery method should only be used to send a telegram. Of course, the fastest way to offer your condolences is to use modern communication tools: email, Skype, Viber..., but they are suitable for confident Internet users, and these should be not only senders, but also recipients.
Using SMS to show sympathy and empathy is only acceptable if there are no other opportunities for contact with a person, or if the status of your relationship is distant acquaintance or formal friendly relations.
Submission form:
In writing:
- Telegram;
- email;
- e-card;
- obituary - a mourning note in a newspaper.
Orally:
- In a telephone conversation;
- at a personal meeting.
In verse: Suitable for written expressions of grief.
Tip 2
Important points
All verbal condolences should be short in form.
- It is more delicate to express official condolences in writing. For this, a heartfelt verse is more suitable, to which you can choose a photo of the deceased, corresponding electronic pictures and postcards.
- Personal individual condolences must be exclusive and can be expressed either verbally or in writing.
- For the dearest and closest people, it is important to express or write sorrowful condolences in your own sincere words, not formal, which means not stereotyped.
- Since poems are rarely exclusive, exclusively yours, so listen to your heart, and it will tell you words of consolation and support.
- Not only words of condolences should be sincere, but also an offer of any help that is within your power: financial, organizational.
Be sure to mention the distinctive personal virtues and character traits of the deceased person that you would like to preserve in memory forever as an example: wisdom, kindness, responsiveness, optimism, love of life, hard work, honesty...
This will be the individual part of the condolence, the main part of which can be formulated according to the approximate model proposed in our article.
Tip 3
Universal mournful texts
- “May the earth rest in peace” is a traditional ritual phrase that is said after a burial has taken place; it can be a condolence message at a funeral, and is suitable even for atheists.
- “We all mourn your irreparable loss.”
- “The pain of loss cannot be expressed in words.”
- “I sincerely condole and sympathize with your grief.”
- “Please accept my deepest condolences on the death of a dear person.”
- “We will keep in our hearts the bright memory of the deceased wonderful man.”
Help can be offered in the following words:
- “We are ready to share the severity of your grief, be by your side and provide the necessary assistance to you and your family.”
- “Surely, you will need to resolve many issues. You can count on us, accept our help."
On the death of mother, grandmother
- “The death of the closest person - mother - is an irreparable grief.”
- “The bright memory of her will forever be in our hearts.”
- “How much we didn’t have time to tell her during her lifetime!”
- “We sincerely mourn and sympathize with you in this bitter moment.”
- “Hold on! In memory of her. She wouldn't want to see you in despair."
Tip 5
On the death of a husband, father, grandfather
- “I offer my sincere condolences and express my deep sympathy in connection with the death of a loved one who was a reliable support for you and your family.”
- “In memory of this strong man, you must show fortitude and wisdom to survive this grief and continue what he did not finish.”
- “We will carry the bright and kind memory of him throughout our lives.”
Tip 6
On the death of a sister, brother, friend, loved one
- “It is painful to realize the loss of a loved one, but it is even more difficult to come to terms with the departure of young people who have not known life. Eternal memory!
- “Allow me to express my most sincere condolences on the occasion of this severe, irreparable loss!”
- “Now you will have to become a support for your parents! Remember this and hang in there!”
- “God help you survive and endure the pain of this loss!”
- “For the sake of your children, their peace and well-being, you need to cope with this grief, find the strength to live and learn to look into the future.”
- “Death does not take away love, your love is immortal!”
- “Happy memory to a wonderful man!”
- “He will forever remain in our hearts!”
To the death of a believer
The text of condolences may contain the same mournful words as for a secular person, but an Orthodox Christian should add:
- Ritual phrase:
“The Kingdom of Heaven and Eternal Peace!”
"God is merciful!"
- Prayer phrase:
“O Lord, rest his soul, forgive all sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant the Kingdom of Heaven!” Conclusion
Conclusion
“The life of the dead continues in the memory of the living” - these words belong to the ancient sage Cicero. And while we are alive, our departed loved ones live in our hearts!
Often a person is not prepared for the death of family or loved ones. For such cases, you need to be able to express words of condolences, doing it sincerely. Condolence is a mutual experience of loss, a desire to share this pain. Grief shocks and devastates a person, so at such a moment he needs support, even with words, and he will decide for himself whether to accept it or not. Correctly chosen words of condolences will always provide the necessary support.
How to Express Condolences
- Be sensitive, vigilant, try to understand what the grieving person needs.
- Since the person is shocked at this moment, he will probably not pay attention to what exactly you say. It is more effective to hug the grieving person, press him to your chest, stay close to him, and offer help.
- An important aspect of expressing sympathy is sincerity. When choosing your words, remember that hypocritical expressions and attempts to imitate feelings that do not exist are unacceptable.
- If a person is venting to you, be quiet and listen.
- You should be careful about the form of expressing condolences in poetry; not everyone will understand this.
- You should not give the mourner advice and warnings like: “don’t kill yourself in vain,” “don’t worry like that,” at the moment it's pointless.
- It is worth discarding the attempt to instantly calm a person down with the words: “he has gone to a better world,” “we are all not eternal,” “he has suffered,” and so on.
Condolences
Regarding the death of father, mother
- This world has lost a great personality...
- We were completely shaken by the news of his death. He was a righteous and courageous man, an honest and reliable friend. I knew him for so many years, I mourn with you...
- Our family is grieving, as are you. It is difficult and painful to lose those who have been with us for so many years.
- Your father was always ready to help. You can also count on our help...
- This is an irreparable loss. Together with you, it hurts us too. He did a lot for you, was a support, but now his desire is for you to quickly overcome this tragedy.
- Your loss is irreparable. But he left in our souls his immortal light and warm memories of days gone by.
- Having gone into eternity, his last wish is for you to live happily, no matter what!
- How painful it is for you at this difficult moment. After all, our parents invest so much in us! Their bright and good deeds will not be forgotten! This is the best honor for them.
- We have no one closer to our parents in the world! A person who has passed away continues to live in his righteous deeds. Let him be an example for all of us in difficult times. I sincerely sympathize with you about this loss!
- Let our memory and gratitude be the best honor. And now we must stick together, count on my help. Parents are the image of God for us.
- Losing a mother is losing a part of yourself! Let me share your pain! Eternal memory!
Regarding the death of a brother, sister
- I am shocked and it hurt me to hear about this tragedy. I will miss him.
- In memory of him, I am ready to support you at this moment...
- When loved ones leave, this is the worst thing. I mourn with you.
- She made a huge contribution to your upbringing. Your happy life will be her gratitude.
- Your sister was a bright and kind person. The world has become poorer without her.
- He often got us into trouble, but thanks to this we became better, we became stronger, we became kinder. Eternal memory to you, brother!
Regarding the death of a husband, wife, loved one
- He was everything to you! Keep his love in your soul! She will be the best memory.
- Our hearts, our memories will always keep warm memories of him...
- Having learned about what happened, we for a long time They were crushed and didn’t know what to do. But tears will not help your grief; count on us to be by your side throughout the ritual procession.
- I am deeply saddened by this news. It is impossible to experience these feelings painlessly. Whatever I say is just a consolation. I will be by your side to help you get through this shock...
- I wish I could find words to ease your pain, but I don’t know if there are such words in all the land.
- A loved one does not die, he just stops being around. In your soul and in our memory, your love will live forever.
- He was your support and protection in life, now he has become your guardian angel! Love binds you with invisible threads!
Regarding the death of a child
- Your grief is great, I am crushed along with you...
- This is indescribable pain! How can I help you? Count on my help...
- I know how much you loved him. He was your whole world, which collapsed overnight! All I can do is share your grief.
- My condolences. Parental love is the strongest. The pain is inexpressible. But at this moment, the best memory of him will be to control himself. We will be by your side and help...
- It is unlikely that we will ever understand why God takes away our young people! You can go crazy from such pain. But, you need to continue to live! Be strong!
- Children are the most important thing we have. God forbid someone to experience such a loss! My sincere condolences...
- When we heard this news, we were speechless. We feel your pain, it is enormous. Always count on our help!
- It is a great human grief to lose a mother. But there is no greater grief than losing a son. Please accept our condolences! We share your pain!
- This sad news shook us like thunder. Be strong, we will always be there...
Acquaintances, friends
- I sympathize with your grief.
- Kingdom of heaven, may the earth rest in peace...
- I see how dear he was to you, please accept my condolences...
- News of death is the most painful and depressing. I can't believe it! My heart also hurts from what I heard. No matter what, you need to continue to live and remember this person with kind words.
- When grief comes to the house, no one is ready for it. And the pain is great! I will help you take this blow of fate...
- I am completely saddened by the news of your loss. Words are unlikely to help, and it is inexpressible. Is there anything I can do for you in this situation?
- At the moment of life loss, we understand what is most important to us. Seeing the grief that has overtaken you, I will refuse words! But remember, I am nearby!