Positive qualities of a teenager. Negative character traits and behavioral errors
All people are capable of reading various self-help books that have enough knowledge to help us become wiser in our relationships. However, we are all hampered by the bad, sometimes “poisonous” qualities of our chosen one. We are often afraid to talk to the person who is causing these toxic vibes, and we are even more afraid of having to leave friendships and relationships because of them.
Such “poisonous” qualities manifest themselves in a variety of forms, and we can see some of them in those people from whom we do not expect this at all. A person who is nice and good to us on the outside becomes an illusion, because on the inside he is completely different. We just have to wait for him to show his true colors.
let's consider five human qualities in relationships that represent general personality traits. It is worth considering that they can be hidden behind a person’s kind smile and successful appearance.
Sometimes you just need to think about the qualities of other people.
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The discussion on this topic began when we collaborated with Kristen Fuller, MD, to hear her talk about her own experiences in similar relationships. She writes: “I was able to avoid “toxic” relationships, but I saw bad qualities in those people who at first glance seemed to me an excellent candidate for the role of the chosen one. For example, a man had everything: a large family, a prestigious education, a successful career, and he seemed to me a very kind person. But I quickly realized that this was all appearance and that it was difficult to avoid emotional torture with people with “toxic” qualities, because outwardly they looked “perfect.” The difficulty was that their true sides could not be seen at first glance.
As the saying goes, “looks can be deceiving”. I learned how important it is to recognize such people at the very beginning of a friendship or relationship with them. I also learned to remove those “terrible” people from my life and appreciate those who, on the contrary, bring positive emotions into it. Ultimately, I became a strong person and if such people came across my path, I knew what to do in a given situation.”
Whether in friendships or romantic relationships, most of us cannot see these bad qualities even when interacting with such people. Eat five terrible faces people who poison relationships with them; they are all quite common. These masks can be hidden in people, and it happens that a person has not one, but even many qualities that harm others. The words of Shakespeare come to mind - “Our whole life is a game, and the people in it are actors.”
List of bad qualities in people:
It is necessary to understand what is more important to him, find a reason or simply criticize.
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CRITIC
Have you ever been in a relationship where you were criticized and judged no matter what you did? Criticism is different from regular advice and it is important to understand this difference. For example, let's consider a situation in the life of a person when he was late for a meeting. Being late negatively affects our professional and personal relationships with people. Always being late is a bad characteristic of a person. However, each of us has made such mistakes and learned from our mistakes. So let's now move on to different versions of the same late situation.
Scenario #1: You're 15 minutes late for lunch and don't notify your significant other beforehand. She/he gets very angry and instead of asking what happened, she/he automatically starts blaming you. What you hear addressed to you - “You always come late and are always late, I waited for you for a whole 15 minutes, you can never seem to show up on time.”
This is the perfect example of criticism and, more often than not, this person criticizes your every move: “Are you going to wear this?”, “Why don’t you ever...”, “What’s wrong with you...” and the list goes on. As a result, you constantly feel guilty because “you can never do anything right,” no matter how hard you try.
...criticizes out of habit.
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Scenario #2: You're 15 minutes late for lunch and don't notify your significant other beforehand. Your partner is angry, but instead of criticizing, he tells you - “I notice that you are late quite often. Maybe you have some reasons?. This is an example of your spouse trying to find out the reason why you are behaving incorrectly. Instead of blaming a specific individual, he or she looks for the reason for the action.
Critic can bring a lot of harm to your relationship. Critics never call you offensive names, but they may constantly insult your beliefs, your appearance, or your thoughts. Often, this happens because they have low self-esteem and want to control everything. Instead of trying to improve some of your bad habits, these people actually stop you from growing as a person.
An example of such criticism can be seen when one parent says to a child, “You are a bad boy/girl,” instead of saying, “You did a bad thing.”
PASSIVE AGGRESSOR
We all have passive-aggressive people around us. The passive aggressor is one of the most terrible characteristics. You will always feel bad with such a person.
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Let's consider the scenario of one of the situations:
You did something wrong and your other half was upset after that. However, you are not entirely sure that this is the problem with his condition. And then you start asking him why he is angry or sad, because you could eliminate this mistake in the future if it is your fault. However, despite all your attempts to get to the truth, your partner does not tell the real reason and denies everything with the phrases “ I'm fine", « I'm not upset, everything is fine«.
This can lead to you exhausting yourself wondering why he has this condition and what he is hiding under the real reasons for resentment or even anger. You can spend countless hours trying to read a person's mind, but nothing will come of it and you will only waste your nerves.
If a person cannot communicate in a way you understand, uses sarcasm as a defense mechanism, sends mixed messages, or does anything to avoid showing their true emotions, you are dealing with a passive-aggressive personality. Keep in mind that passive aggression is a passive expression of anger.
NARCISSISTIC
Such a person acts as if he or she is God's gift to this universe. He is the best at everything, knows absolutely everything and is not afraid to tell you anything. No matter how smart and experienced you are, you will never be on equal terms with this person - he will not allow you to. Like the passive-aggressive trait, narcissism is considered a personality disorder and is a very bad trait.
Narcissism is one of the bad qualities of people
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Narcissistic people tend to put themselves on a pedestal and look down on you. You may feel like you are constantly competing with this person, no matter the circumstances. Narcissists are often unwilling to compromise, lack understanding and empathy, and crave to always be the center of attention. They may even ruin special occasions for you, such as your birthday or promotion at work, all in order to be the center of attention. And they don't care that it's your time to enjoy attention or fame.
The tale of Narcissus from ancient Greek and Roman mythology helps us better understand the characteristics of narcissists. If you remember the description of the work, it describes how Narcissus looked into the water and saw a beautiful flower instead of himself. He was surprised. Narcissistic people are often full of hatred. They are ready to destroy everything around them if they feel hurt or rejected by others.
"STONE WALL"
Many people may have heard of a “stone wall.” This is the kind of person who refuses to engage in conversation or share his feelings when he has problems. Such people constantly dodge questions, making the interlocutor feel that he is not worthy of honest communication. Such a “stony” person may talk to you coldly and refuse to admit that something has happened to him, or he needs someone’s help.
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Frequent refusals from sincere communication create negative emotions on the path to future successful communication. Additionally, this type of behavior from people can make you feel resentful or guilty. If you are trying to communicate with such a person and feel that they do not want to be open with you, then you should think about whether you need such a relationship.
ANTI-SOCIAL PERSONALITY
Antisocial personality disorder includes traits sociopath (considered to be the result of social conditions such as childhood abuse, characterized by explosive and sometimes aggressive behavior, but supposedly has the capacity for empathy and remorse) And psychopath, who supposedly feels no remorse or empathy, takes advantage of other people and often engages in fraud or crime with various motives including greed and revenge. The etiology of psychopathic behavior is believed to be genetic or congenital.
We all have tendencies for different personality traits. We all have temptation and may see some of ourselves in the behavior of an antisocial personality. We can also forgive and even welcome such people by imagining ourselves in their place. However, psychopaths are psychological chameleons who influence the necessary emotional part in order to manipulate every situation and other people for money, sex, power, ego satisfaction, etc. They are usually such professionals that their victims themselves do not know what is happening.
This psychological predatory behavior can only be prevented by a skilled person. It is not surprising that most people do not even suspect that such people exist in their environment until it is too late. A psychopath's "love" is mostly a lie and is for the control, flattery, and power that lie beneath his mask.
RESULT
If you are in a relationship with someone who has any of these personality traits, it would be wise for you to spend time thinking about how you feel with that person. This is exactly what Kristen did, gaining enormous insight into the essence of human relationships.
Hello! Almost all people have undesirable character traits. Many people try to hide them, but it doesn’t always work. Let's find out what the negative qualities of a person are. The list will help you find them in your home so you can try to fix them.
Parenting mistakes or psychological trauma
Character traits are formed from childhood, so upbringing and family relationships play an important role. Often, a bad character prevents you from living, finding true friends, a good job, or a loved one. If you look at the list of negative traits, you can see yourself and the people around you differently.
Bad character traits from A to Z
It all starts with authoritarianism...
Aggressiveness. The desire to always run into conflict. For children, this trait is mandatory, because the child does not yet know other methods of protection. And in an adult, this is expressed in a raised tone, insults, and often physical violence.
Gambling. The desire to achieve a goal at any cost, despite the sound arguments of other people and huge expenses. This trait often leads to death or serious loss of health.
Greed. Only money obtained at any cost becomes the cause of pleasant emotions. But emotions quickly pass, pushing the individual towards even greater profit.
Disorder. Reluctance to act according to the rules, to choose an equally costly path to achieve the goal.
Irresponsibility. Unwillingness to take responsibility to improve another person's life.
Ruthlessness. Inability to sympathize with someone else's grief, indifference. Often this trait leads to the suffering or death of other people.
Unceremoniousness. Intentional violation of norms to create a conflict situation or attract attention. Unconscious impudence is the result of improper upbringing.
Talkativeness. A painful desire to tell everything to one or several people at once, the dissemination of even secret information.
Windiness. Not taking into account the interests of other people, not keeping promises, not being able to move towards one goal for a long time. Constant change of interests or partners.
Lust for power. Desire for unquestioning submission. Intoxication with one's power, when others are forced to ask for something.
Vulgarity. Inability to find a balance between vulgarity and originality, inability to create a harmonious wardrobe. When talking, be mannered and make dirty jokes.
One of the main problems of humanity is the presence of stupidity
Stupidity. Inability to draw the right conclusions from simple life situations. Do not analyze information, giving your conclusions the status of correct.
Pride. Confidence in the insignificance of others, unwillingness to forgive others for mistakes, inability to see the merits of other people. Pride develops when there are distortions in upbringing, immaturity of the individual, when he reaches a high status.
Coarseness. Inability to politely treat others, which is expressed in rudeness and insults. Sometimes this is a defense against an encroachment on a person or his territory.
Greed. Pathological desire to minimize expenses even to the detriment of health or good relationships with a loved one. Reluctance to get rid of trash.
Cruelty. Causing discomfort, pain to living beings or people in order to obtain personal moral satisfaction.
Addiction. The desire to gain pleasure from activities or use of prohibited substances at any cost.
Envy. Without seeing your own achievements, you are pathologically jealous of other people’s values, and compare yourself with others not in your favor.
Complexity. Belittling one's merits and talents, inability to express one's merits. The man received too strict an upbringing.
Boring. A person loves to lecture everyone, repeating the same thing many times.
Anger. Showing dissatisfaction through strong emotions or physical actions that often lead to delinquency.
Hypocrisy. Pretense in dealing with other people, ingratiation to achieve one's goals.
Pettiness. Sticking out your imaginary qualities without noticing the talents of others. In a home environment, there is a requirement for reporting even on small things.
Impudence. Unceremoniousness in any situation, always going over people's heads to get what they want at any cost.
Arrogance. The perception of people around you is lower than yourself in terms of status or financial situation.
Narcissism. Praising oneself, narcissism, but indifference to others.
How many bad things have happened because of negligence?
Negligence. Reluctance to properly perform assigned duties. Inattention to trusted values.
Limitation. Confidence that only he knows the structure of the universe, and the rest are narrow-minded people.
Vulgarity. Demonstration of material goods, elaborate outfits, luxury items. Making dirty jokes, telling indecent jokes, causing a feeling of awkwardness in others.
Irritability. Excessive emotions in response to irritants, unwillingness to restrain.
Self-criticism.“Eating” yourself for any, even correct actions, convicting yourself of non-existent sins due to low self-esteem.
Weakness. Inability to resist someone else's will, even when feeling great danger.
Cowardice. Failure to fight back, leaving the participants of the event in trouble.
Vanity. Expectation of praise not even for existing merits.
Selfishness. Narcissism, the desire to live only as you want, regardless of the wishes of others.
Your actions when applying for a job
When you decide to change jobs, write a resume and then forward it to the new employer. For a resume, it is important not only to describe positive character traits, but also negative ones. Sometimes an employer overlooks your merits and focuses on the “weaknesses” column.
He understands that you will properly describe moral and business qualities, but never negative ones.
How to proceed? It is necessary to write a resume taking into account the future place of work. Sometimes negative characteristics are more suitable for a given job than good qualities.
- Therefore, carefully study the requirements for your new job.
- Write only high-quality resumes. If you write a low-quality resume, you may not get a response.
- If they don’t answer, ask why there is no answer, but don’t bother with calls.
- Be sure to answer the survey questions.
- The employer welcomes the description of the weaknesses of the future employee, understanding that no one is perfect. If a person notes weaknesses, it means he is ready to correct them.
- If you need to indicate negative qualities, then you need to do it very competently.
Correct writing of a resume
- Keep it business casual. Present the information briefly, clearly, and understandably. During the interview, clarify each point if asked.
- Do not ignore the “shortcomings” item so as not to come across as a smug person. Otherwise, the employer will think that you have inflated self-esteem and that is the only reason why they can refuse you without inviting you for an interview.
- If an employee is self-critical, then the employer will treat him better than a person without shortcomings.
- It is worth saying when you meet that you are struggling with your shortcomings and there are already successes.
- Don’t write that you are a workaholic, self-critical, or anything like that.
- Always write that if you set a goal, you achieve it. Give an example. If there are obstacles on the way, then you overcome them, also give an example.
- Point out that you are responsible and teachable.
Example of character flaws and their applicability
Psychologists call character a combination of personality traits that determine its behavior. You can make many lists of human character traits. If two people are given the task of characterizing a third person, their lists will differ from each other. People don't think about how character affects their successes or failures. But, considering the individual qualities that make up character, it is easy to understand how they affect the personality as a whole. A person’s character traits develop depending on the type of nervous activity, heredity, and upbringing environment. They are formed throughout life. The predominance of certain traits determines a person’s lifestyle.
Human character traits: list
Many psychologists divide all character traits into 4 main groups:
- Attitude towards others;
- Attitude towards yourself;
- Attitude to material values;
- Attitude to work.
Within each group, many qualities can be identified.
For example, a list of traits of the “attitude towards others” group:
- compassion;
- respect;
- reliability;
- flexibility;
- politeness;
- the ability to forgive;
- generosity;
- Gratitude;
- hospitality;
- justice;
- meekness;
- obedience;
- loyalty;
- sincerity;
- tolerance;
- truthfulness.
Character traits: list of the “attitude towards oneself” group:
- Caution;
- Contentment (understanding that true happiness does not depend on material conditions);
- Creation;
- Determination;
- Courage;
- Attentiveness;
- Endurance;
- Faith;
- Honor;
- Initiative;
- Self-control.
“Attitude towards material values” can be characterized by the following qualities:
- Thrift;
- Organization;
- Generosity;
- Wisdom.
“Attitude to work” demonstrates the following character traits:
- Hard work;
- Enthusiasm;
- Initiative;
- Punctuality;
Psychologists also classify character traits according to volitional, emotional and intellectual characteristics. Personality properties appear in combinations. For example, kindness, generosity and hospitality are usually characteristic of the same person. When characterizing a person, others highlight leading features or a set of features. By saying, “He's a kind and sincere guy,” or “She's lazy and disorganized,” people make a point. This doesn't mean that a lazy girl can't be kind and honest. It’s just that these traits do not predominate in her behavior.
Positive and negative character traits
For harmonious interaction in all four areas (with society, material values, work and oneself), a person must demonstrate his best qualities and minimize his worst. It is traditional to highlight “pros” and “cons” in personality characteristics. Every positive trait has its opposite. Even children easily name antonyms: “good - evil”, “hardworking - lazy”, etc. It is difficult to define uniquely positive character traits. For example, for the professions of a teacher, salesperson, doctor, and waiter, such traits as goodwill, politeness, and tolerance are important. These qualities are not essential for the work of a programmer, accountant, or draftsman, who more require organization, punctuality, and responsibility.
There is a special concept of “professional character traits.” A clearly expressed quality suitable for a particular job helps a person achieve great professional success. At the same time, character is formed throughout life. The profession leaves its mark on the personality. Therefore, when they say “he is an exemplary policeman,” everyone understands that we are talking about a disciplined, courageous, fair person. The expression “teacher from God” means a kind, wise, tolerant person. A person who dreams of a good career must develop the best qualities of his profession.
Good character traits can also be controversial in the everyday sense. Being generous is good, but if, because of generosity, a person gives away necessary property, his family and himself suffer. Obedience, for which a child is praised at home and in kindergarten, can be detrimental to him and form a weak-willed, passive personality.
People understand negative character traits much easier. We can say that these qualities are universal. Anger, envy, deceit, laziness, and greed are included in the list of mortal sins of Christians. But such properties are perceived negatively by people of all faiths. Muslims consider hypocrisy to be the worst sin. Hypocrites are equally disliked in all countries and among all peoples. Negative character traits of a person, if they appear in combination, make the person very unattractive to others. Negative characters are quarrelsome neighbors, quarrelsome colleagues, evil relatives. These are people who have taken the negative aspects of their nature to the extreme.
Every person is to a certain extent deceitful, envious, and quick-tempered, but reasonable people try not to demonstrate their negative qualities to others. Negative aspects of character can be corrected. If others often say: “You are too rude,” “It’s difficult to communicate with you because of your arrogance,” you need to draw conclusions and start working on yourself. Psychologists advise writing down the negative qualities of your character on a piece of paper and working with each one individually. For example, you can remember among your friends a person who behaves exactly the opposite of you - not rude, but correct, not quick-tempered, but patient. You need to imagine yourself in a certain situation in the place of this person. At the same time, it is important to conjure up a real picture and real emotions. Such psycho-emotional training helps to reconfigure behavior and develop the desired quality in oneself.
Adaptation of character to society
Any culture, people and civilizations have certain frameworks of behavior. A person cannot exist outside of society. From childhood, a child has to adapt to the requirements of the environment - family, kindergarten, school. An adult is influenced by many social forces, from spouses to politics, religion, social class. A person’s character inevitably adapts to the demands of society. At the same time, many natural inclinations of the individual are put under pressure.
History knows many examples when brilliantly gifted people came into conflict with their environment due to the inability to lead the lifestyle that their nature required. At the same time, social norms allow a person to lead a safe life in the society around him. Such social character traits as loyalty, tolerance, and politeness allow painless contact with others. Rejection of social norms, primarily laws and morals, creates an asocial personality.
In modern psychology there is a term “national character traits”. Each nation develops certain common, typical behavior patterns among its representatives. For example:
- The peoples of Northern Europe and Americans are self-confident, honest, practical, persistent, and freedom-loving. The conservatism and subtle humor of the British, the punctuality of the Germans, and the taciturnity of the Scandinavians are well known.
- Residents of Southern Europe and Latin America are energetic, temperamental, emotional, cheerful, and sensual. A romantic Italian, a passionate Spanish woman, a charming French woman, restless Brazilians - there is a lot of reality in these stereotypes;
- Representatives of Eastern Europe (Russians, Ukrainians, Belarusians, Poles, Czechs) love constancy, are magnanimous, generous, selfless, sympathetic, prone to repentance and forgiveness. The widespread stereotype of the “mysterious Russian soul” has many foundations.
- The peoples of the East are much more respectful of parents and, in general, elders than Europeans. Eastern societies, much more than European ones, are characterized by hospitality, family honor, dignity, modesty, goodwill, and tolerance.
Traits of a social nature are inextricably linked with religious norms. The standards of Christian morality include the following qualities:
- Lack of envy;
- Chastity;
- Meekness;
- Generosity;
- Sociability;
- Compassion.
The influence of religious culture in the history of society is very strong. Even modern atheists in European countries consider the main Christian value - love for people - to be the best personal characteristic.
Islamic society creates the following traits in people:
- Respect for elders;
- Hospitality;
- Modesty;
- Courage;
- Humility.
Characteristics of men and women
A person’s gender plays a huge role in character formation. Not only gender characteristics develop certain qualities, but also public opinion. Standard character traits of a man:
- Leadership;
- Ability to protect;
- Inner strength;
- Reliability;
- Loyalty;
Women are guided more by intuition and feelings than by reason; they are more talkative, gentle in communication, and cunning. Of course, in most cases, women and men correspond to their gender characteristics. But it has not yet been studied in detail what influences the formation of gender traits more - nature or nurture. Often men and women have to fulfill the role that society imposes on them. For example, medieval society ordered a woman to be modest and obedient to her parents and husband. Modernity requires more independence from women.
The world is full of men and women who do not fit the accepted characteristics. Many girls have leadership and organizational skills. And, conversely, a large number of men are delicate, non-aggressive and emotional.
At what age is character formed?
Any mother who has raised several children will say that all her babies were completely different from infancy. Even infants react differently to food, bathing, and play. There are temperamental, noisy babies, and there are quiet and inactive ones. Heredity plays a role here, as well as natural temperament, which depends on physique, health and upbringing conditions.
A child's character traits develop under the influence, first of all, of the family. Responsible, loving parents already at the age of three or four years see what type of temperament the child has by nature: choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, or melancholic. Depending on innate qualities, a positive, socially acceptable character can be formed. If there is no love and attention for children in a family, they are less likely to grow up friendly and hardworking. On the other hand, the examples of many outstanding politicians, writers, and artists who grew up in disadvantaged conditions confirm the importance of innate character traits and self-education.
Was last modified: August 2nd, 2016 by Elena Pogodaeva
Now we will take you on a short excursion in particular negative character traits, and let’s try to figure out what it means to have certain traits. First, let's define what character is.
Character is usually called a stable set of mental properties of a person.
Let's try to list the main negative character traits.
Pride is the belief that you are the cause of all events, both positive and negative, in your life.
Self-confidence- a trait characteristic of people who exaggerate their capabilities.
Lust for power is the desire to rule, which makes a person unbearable in communication and in his personal life.
Vanity is an obsessive desire to boast about one's achievements and successes.
Selfishness is an excessive focus solely on one’s own interests; disregard for the interests of other people.
Jealousy is a component negative character traits, which poisons the life not only of oneself, but also of other people.
Envy is a belittlement of one's abilities and at the same time dissatisfaction with the success of another person. It is interesting that the energy process in this case is aimed at taking away, taking away, attracting something successful from another person. That’s why it’s not advisable to brag, especially if you’re just starting to do something: as people say, you told it, someone was jealous and jinxed it. Communication with envious people is in itself destructive. It’s not for nothing that the expression “envy with black envy” exists.
Resentment is depression due to resentment towards someone from the environment. An offended person does not actively eliminate misunderstandings, does not solve problematic situations, retreating into a passive form of response - resentment. Resentment also has a destructive effect on a person’s general condition.
Condemnation usually goes hand in hand with resentment, but it can also be a separate character trait. It manifests itself in the desire to extol oneself and criticize others, while absolutely not noticing one’s own shortcomings.
Anger, irritability, anger, hatred. They manifest themselves as a reaction to someone or something, accumulate and destroy the psyche of the person himself. If a person begins to indulge such traits, explaining this by the uncontrollability of his behavior, then he should know that sooner or later he may find himself a patient in a closed medical institution (mental hospital).
Weakness is a convenient manipulative position of a person who prefers that others take care of his problems.
Extravagance– a negative character quality akin to vanity. The desire to be scattered on all sides, to increase attention and self-respect. It’s even worse if the wastefulness does not concern one’s own resources (parental money, for example).
Thrift, stinginess and greed- the same character trait, only expressed differently. Greed is the most extreme form of expression of stinginess, “getting stuck” on the possession of material things or money.
Guilt is a trait characteristic of people who have low self-esteem, and, on the contrary, a hypertrophied sense of duty.
Self-criticism can stem from a previous character trait (guilt), or perhaps from self-confidence. A person begins to be overly critical of himself, constantly returning to his mistakes or inability to “reach the heights” that he has determined for himself.
Cruelty is the underdevelopment of a person, the inability to adequately respond to current circumstances. Expressed in the desire to cause harm in order to relieve one’s own tension.
Vengefulness is an obsessive desire to “repay evil for evil.” Akin to pride and cruelty.
Gluttony is compensation for everyday joys by excessive consumption of food. Inability to live and enjoy life in its other manifestations.
The same applies to voluptuousness (lust). A person tries to increase his self-esteem and unwillingness to accept himself by increasing the number of sexual partners, which ultimately leads him to even greater disappointment in himself and in life as such.
The ancients called them “dragons” that live within us.
All that remains is to add - fight your “dragons”, do not give them a place to “register” in your soul, and - be happy!
Personal qualities of a person– these are complex, biologically and socially determined components of personality. By bringing together all the personal qualities of a person, you can get his complete psychological portrait.
Personality qualities are usually divided intopositive and negative. What are these qualities and can a personality consist of only positive qualities?
Personality qualitiesexpressfeatures of mental processes, states and properties of an individual, his character traits, temperamental features, specific behavior, interactions with other people, the environment, himself, that is, all the individual psychological characteristics of the individual. In addition, a person's personal qualitiesincludehis knowledge, skills and abilities.
There are many classifications of personality traits and even more personality typologies based on these classifications. Psychologists have always been interested in the mystery of human personality and they tried to sort it out “on the shelves.”
But why does an ordinary person (not a professional psychologist) need to know about what personal qualities there are? The fact is that knowledge generates self-awareness, increasesawareness. A person who knows what personality traits exist canidentify them for yourself, and then indicate the paths and directionswork on yourself.
Also, knowing about personality traits, you can understand more aboutpeople around, learn how to properly build and maintain relationships.
The first stage of a relationship of any kind involves getting to know each other, which is essentially a clarification of personal qualities. When two people first meet (be it a job interview or a man and a woman's first date), there is alwaysneed to knowwhat kind of person is in front of you? It is not for nothing that a resume requires you to indicate not only your work experience and basic data, but also list personal qualities, knowledge, skills and abilities.
So, if you need to know your personal qualities in order to understand how to further develop your personality, then knowledge of the personal characteristics of another person is important insofar as it allows you to determine compatibility with him and suggest what kind of relationship may develop.
Positive personality traits are usually supported, reinforced and developed, while negative people try to correct, change or eradicate.
But the division of personality traits into positive and negativeconditional! It is based on generally accepted rules and norms of morality and ethics. You need to understand that such a subtle matter as a person’s personality, in fact, cannot be decomposed into “black” and “white”.
Personality qualities that are usually called negative are not absolute, butrelativelynegative, just like positive qualities. For example, in a situation where you need to stand up for yourself, aggressiveness (which is considered a negative trait) becomes necessary and simply necessary.
A person's personal qualities can be:congenital, so acquired. Certain personality qualities are developed either under the influence of the environment and society (upbringing) or are a consequenceself-education.
A person can develop many qualities, traits, behavioral characteristics, abilities, skills,work out, so and eradicate.
Of course, there are personality traits that are practically impossible to change, but you still shouldn’t hang “labels” (either on yourself or on others)!
A person can always, if not change radically, then at least learn to compensate for some of his qualities by developing others.
Negative human qualities, which are undesirable and require correction, all together would form not just a large, but a huge list. Therefore, only a few of them are listed below:
All these personality traits give rise to a correspondingbehaviorThus, a deceitful person lies to everyone all the time, a lazy and careless person is in no hurry to do his work, and an irresponsible person constantly lets himself and others down.
The presence of one or another negative quality spoils the life of the person himself and/or other people, but in any case, itnot a sentence. By working on yourself, you can improve the quality of your life, relationships with others, and become happier.
Positive human qualities
The list of positive qualities of a person is as endless as the list of negative traits. Perhaps most of all, such people are revered and welcomedpositive traits, How:
These positive qualities give rise to correspondingskills and abilities: the ability to make friends, love, learn, create, work, and so on.
In the article “” you will find another informative list of positive personality traits.
As you can see, both the list of a person’s negative qualities and the list of positive ones includes not only those qualities that express the individual’s attitude towards other people and society, but also towards himself, work, things, and the world as a whole. This is because a person’s personal qualitiesmanifest themselves in everything: from who he works to what colors in clothes he prefers.
It is rare to meet a person whose personality contains only positive human qualities. But there are many people whose personality structureprevail such qualities.
Any person always has conditionally negative personality traits, those that are worth working on, but their presence should not be a problem, but a stimulus for development and growth.
Make sure that there is less negativity and positive personality traits predominate,every person can do it!
In what direction do you most often have to work on yourself?