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We can't always do everything ourselves. From time to time we have to turn to other people for help. Sometimes this causes certain difficulties. Some people have a very hard time asking for help. It’s easier for them to do everything themselves, straining and suffering. Sometimes this inability to ask for help is explained by pride, reluctance to disturb others, cause them anxiety, principles, and fear of rejection. For more deep level behind this is the fear of one’s own helplessness and imperfection. However, learning to ask for help is an important life skill that will help you in many situations. Let's put aside unnecessary fears and think about how to ask for help, how to do it tactfully and correctly.
Get in the right mood
- First, realize that you really need help. Formulate what exactly you need. Narrow the range of problems to one main one, then it will be easier for the other person to understand you.
- How to ask for help? Select a helper. Think about who exactly could help you in this situation. If you need emotional support, then you should go to to a close friend. If you have a specific problem, you may need to consult a qualified professional. Don't ask for help from someone you don't trust or don't think is worthy, even if it's your only chance to get help.
- Don't beat yourself up because you can't handle the problem on your own. This does not mean that you are weak, imperfect or foolish man. Everyone has difficulties sometimes, no one is perfect. Your ability to ask for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
- In fact, people are willing to help others. This increases their sense of self-worth, so you will even be doing your assistant a favor - he will grow in his own eyes. Remember this.
- How to ask people for help? You need to ask in such a way that the person has the opportunity to refuse. The request cannot be categorical: “Do this...I need this,” etc. Of course, the request must be expressed politely. If they refuse you, then don’t worry, accept this fact calmly, without hysterics.
- Express your request clearly and clearly. Say what exactly you want from the person. Offer your help in return - this will interest your interlocutor. Surely there are things you could do for your assistant.
- Listen carefully to your interlocutor when he offers you ways to solve a problem. Even if this option does not suit you, listen to the person to the end and consider his proposal. Don’t rush to discard what you hear; perhaps it will help you in the future.
- Gratitude. Be sure to thank your assistant, because he deserves it by spending his time and effort on you. You can simply say “Thank you” - this is often enough if you thank from the bottom of your heart. You might want to thank the person by taking them out to dinner or buying them a gift. The main thing is for the person to feel that you sincerely appreciate his help, then he will be willing to help you later.
- To get people to help you, offer your help more often. The more often you help others, the more often and more willingly they will help you.
It’s more expensive to ask for help from the President! I want to tell you about how I decided to turn to our President V.V. Putin for help and what came of it. At the beginning of January 2013, I wrote a letter to our President: “Hello Vladimir Vladimirovich! Natalya, a single mother, is writing to you from Penza. This is the second year that I have not worked, I am raising a child. I have the status of an individual entrepreneur, I am an engineer by profession. Before the birth of my daughter, I was involved in drawing up project documentation. At present, it is not possible to carry out any activities, since the child is still small and requires attention and care. I have no income. The funds that were earned and accumulated earlier have already been exhausted. We live on a modest allowance of 3,486 rubles a month and the help of my retired parents. When contacting the social department at your place of residence with a request for assistance financial assistance, was refused. As social service workers assure me, as a single mother I already receive an allowance in the amount of 580 rubles per month; no other benefits are provided. Just think how you can survive on such funds! I am ashamed and hurt that at the age of 30, I and my child are forced to be dependent on elderly parents. It is bitter and insulting that at a time when people especially need support, they are left alone with their problems! Given the current situation, we still have to find funds to pay annual insurance premiums (individual entrepreneurship) - 17208.25 rubles, pay monthly utilities and other housing and communal services. I'm driven to despair! I ask you not to remain indifferent and provide at least some financial assistance.” The letter was sent by e-mail. The answer was not long in coming. Literally 3 days later the answer came to email address: Your request in the form electronic document addressed to the President Russian Federation reviewed and sent to the Government Penza region for the purpose of an objective and comprehensive review with a request to inform you about the results of the review (Part 3 of Article 8 Federal Law dated May 2, 2006 No. 59-FZ “On the procedure for considering appeals from citizens of the Russian Federation”). Head of the Department of Written Appeals from Citizens M. Galkina All that was left was to wait. A week later I received a call from social management and they said that a commission would come with an inspection. The next day, two employees from the social service came, drew up a report, gave me a list of documents that needed to be collected to receive financial assistance, and left. For a week, with a one-year-old child in my arms, in terrible ice and cold, I went to authorities, collecting the necessary papers and certificates. Finally, all the bureaucracy was followed. The documents have been duly submitted at the destination. They promised to report the result in 2 weeks. Strictly 14 days later I received a response by mail: Dear Natalya Vasilievna! In response to your request for financial assistance, we inform you that you have been provided with financial assistance in the amount of 1000 rubles. The money will be paid to the Penza City Integrated Emergency Center social assistance to the population" (5th Vinogradny proezd, 22.) Head of Department S.V. Volkov It’s good that I read the letter while sitting! Draw conclusions from my bitter experience.
To the head of the department of the MBU "Penza City Integrated Center for Urgent Social Assistance to the Population" Volkov S.V. Penza, 5th Vinogradny Proezd, 22. I ask you to clarify who and how determines the amount of material assistance. In particular, comment on my case. Panova N.V.
Help is assistance, support, participation of one person in the life of another. People ask for help when it is difficult or impossible to cope with life’s problems on their own.
Man is not omnipotent. Asking other people for help is natural and normal, it is a social skill. Don't be afraid to ask for help. But doing this is not always easy or simple. The need to ask for help sometimes causes a lot of stress.
When and how to ask people for help?
To ask or not to ask?
Why does one person ask for help without hesitation when he is too lazy to do something on his own, and another does not turn to people when it is absolutely necessary in Hard time?
The ability and ability to ask for help is formed (or not formed) as a social skill. This skill is acquired in childhood, when a child, having learned to speak, demands the benefits and attention of his parents that he needs. The child is taught to correctly ask for help from adults. The word “please” is the first “magic” word, the power of which a baby learns to use.
The ability to say to yourself and others “I am asking for help” depends. One individual takes the benefits provided for granted, while the other suffers need, being afraid to ask for help.
Shy, indecisive individuals are afraid to ask for help, especially from strangers. But the proud and arrogant believe that by asking for help, they will humiliate themselves and show incompetence.
People seek support when a problem becomes too difficult. The realization that outside help would be useful comes late.
Subjects who achieve personal goals at the expense of others use a request for assistance as a . In this case, a request is a means to force a person to do what the manipulator wants.
People feel awkward when they have to ask for help. There is a feeling of one’s own inferiority and the superiority of the person who helps. These feelings are due to prevailing stereotypes: a successful and independent person is on his own, and a loser begs for help.
If asking for help is perceived as a humiliating necessity, the individual should change his attitude towards support from other people.
Failure to ask for help can have irreparable consequences, especially if a person needs it urgently.
Often strong people suffer physical or mental pain without turning to specialists who can help and without telling close relatives about it.
Special social institutions and services help in difficult times, emergency situations, including providing ambulance. Every citizen should know where and what phone number or address to contact in case of a threat to life and health or if other people need help.
Algorithm for asking for help
Man is a social being. Society is built on the ability of people to interact. Help and mutual assistance are necessary and important social phenomena. An individual of any age, gender, social status. But it is not always possible to get help. How to ask for help correctly so that it is provided?
Algorithm of actions for someone asking for help:
- Awareness of need. Having become accustomed to being independent, people do not understand that they can and should ask for help, but sometimes this is the only way out. difficult situation. Saying “I did what I could, but it wasn’t enough, so I’m asking people for help” is more difficult for yourself than for others. IN emergency situations A decision like this needs to be made quickly.
- Formulation of the request. A person does not always understand how people can help him if he does not know what words to use to address them. When the subject experiences hunger, he will become aware of it and will ask a loved one to prepare food. Things are more complicated when a person feels and experiences previously unknown feelings, emotions, and needs. When a person is faced with the unknown, he first understands the situation and puts into words what is happening. We need to try to do this clearly so that people can help solve the problem.
- Finding someone who can help. They ask for help from a specialist whose professional responsibilities include providing assistance and support, from loved ones, relatives or strangers, depending on the situation.
Self-help is part of helping. No specialist can help a person who refuses to cooperate and assist.
You shouldn’t be embarrassed to ask for help, but you shouldn’t play the role of a “victim” in order to get the support you want.
- Actually a request for help. Convey a request for help in words clearly, briefly and politely, without unnecessary emotions. If the person being addressed agrees to help and asks to explain the situation in more detail, this should also be done calmly and with restraint.
A request made in a rude manner is perceived as a demand. I don’t want to fulfill such a request. There is no desire to help the person who asks dismissively or causes a feeling of guilt for not helping him earlier. People who ask too pitifully or in a panic also cause unpleasant feelings. Wanting to support another, you don’t want to “get infected” and “plunge” into negativity, since in such a state it is more difficult to provide the necessary support and assistance.
When an individual asks for help in a positive manner, containing pride and excitement, he shows strength, not weakness of character.
The fear of appearing stupid, incompetent, or inadequate leads to the fact that a person asks for help in an undesirable form and, as a result, receives a refusal.
How to accept help
After listening to the request, the helping person will assist in solving the problem in word and/or deed.
If the help was in action, then gratitude is expressed in words or in action. If they provide support in the form of tips, advice and recommendations, further actions are carried out independently by the individual who asked for help.
The help offered must be understood and accepted. It can be desirable and useful or undesirable and unacceptable.
To accept help you need:
- Listen to advice and recommendations. If assistance is provided by a specialist, it is better to write down the recommendations given so as not to forget anything. If this is a friendly conversation, it is better to discuss exciting question and find a solution together.
- Consider next steps. Based on the advice received, decide whether to accept help or not. Accept desired help with gratitude, and politely refuse unwanted help.
- Thank you for your help. You need to say words of gratitude after receiving help, regardless of how useful it was. Gratitude must be sincere.
People feel the desire to do something good in return, to help each other. If there is no such opportunity, there is no need to feel remorse. A heartfelt “Thank you!” will say much more than a gift or other gratitude.
When refusing unwanted support, it is better to politely say: “Thank you for your participation, but I do not need such help.”
Professional assistance is paid or provided free of charge. There is social and volunteer assistance. People who provide help on a voluntary basis or by vocation derive joy and pleasure from helping someone out in difficult times. They are pleased with the result of their work and positive changes in the life of another person.
When accepting help, you need to take into account the personality of the helping person, respect responsiveness and kindness.
It is wrong to expect support as a matter of course; you need to politely ask for it. Important aspect relationships between people: they are able not only to receive, but also to provide assistance to each other.
When close person or a stranger asks for help, you should try to provide it, if possible. The humanity of each individual is a help provided to society.
It's you who's in trouble
Make an ad
Either you yourself or your close relative should ask for help. First person. Only in this case will users be sure that help is truly welcome and necessary. Often authors believe that it is more important to be as loud as possible about the problem than to provide details. Incorrect option: “Urgent!!! We really need to raise 3 million for treatment!!!” Correct: “Igor Ivanovich Ivanov, born in such and such a year. Urgent surgery is required due to... (exact diagnosis confirmed by attached documents).” What else should be in a correctly composed ad, you will learn from the memo below.
An ideal request for help contains:
█ full information about who needs help and why (full name, date of birth, diagnosis, what studies have been carried out, what is planned to be done with the money raised);
█ if the illness is rare, it is worth describing in clear language what kind of rubbish it is and what it can lead to if help is not provided in time;
█ photographs of documents confirming the problem;
█ photo and/or video message from the person for whom the fundraiser is announced;
█ contact phone number close relative a person in need who is aware of the situation and is ready to answer any questions from those wishing to provide assistance;
█ an explanation of why the victim and his relatives are not able to cope on their own;
█ information about how much money is needed (blood, things) and how much remains to be collected;
█ details for transferring money (address for transferring things, blood transfusion point).
Make your ad clear
Before posting a request, show it to your friends - let them confirm that they understand everything and are ready to help.
Set up a hotline
It is important that one of your close relatives or you yourself are ready to publish your contacts on the Internet (email address, link to a social network page and telephone number). Through all these channels, a person must patiently and thoroughly answer all questions from those wishing to help. If personal presence 24 hours a day, 7 days a week is not possible, create a help group on social networks or a separate website where fresh information about the situation will be posted several times a day. Confirm what you say with photographs of the person in need and copies of documents. This will help people make sure that they really can’t do without their help, and will convince them that they are not dealing with scammers.
Do It different types assistance available
Open different types of accounts, starting with the obvious one at the bank and ending with a QIWI wallet. If you are collecting things, organize not only collection points, but also a mobile team that could pick up help.
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