What is it like to be the wife of an Arab man. Too handsome man who was deported from Saudi Arabia
"Generators unusual ideas", "masters of the family nest" and "desperate friends" - this is all about them, the Arabs. They are also spoiled, boastful and unpredictable. Personal experience girls, but not wives.
Oksana L. has been dating a resident of Jordan for four years, who came to Kyiv to study and earn money, and tells how she and her friend manage to combine such different views of the East and West.
About friendship and personal boundaries
We always have guests at our house. At any moment, a friend or just an acquaintance can call and come to our home in the middle of the night. Naturally, as a woman, I need to set the table and make sure everyone is fed and happy. Sometimes the house resembles some kind of Arab camp, and not a family nest.
If a friend needs help, you need to rush to him in the middle of the night. Arabs are always ready to help out a friend, come where they need to, pick them up, lend money.
They are not jealous of friends. My friend is very jealous, but this only applies to our Slavic guys and men, although I don’t give a reason. He trusts his own people. In any case, his friends, understanding who we are to each other, never allowed themselves even harmless flirting.
About work
They prefer conversations to business - long conversations over hookahs. These are real philosophers who are ready to reason and plan for hours. Although this time could be spent on constructive action rather than chatter, most of from which it will be forgotten the very next day. Eastern men have this problem: their conversations often diverge from their actions. They promise a lot, and they themselves sincerely believe in what they say. Plans can change dramatically, or mood, or something else, and promises will remain just words.
Arab men need to be encouraged - this is how they become inspired and are ready to move mountains for the sake of their family. This applies, in particular, to work. It is important for them to feel that a woman believes in their strengths and capabilities.
Generators of unusual ideas. In the four years since I’ve known my man, he’s started all sorts of businesses. Cafe, transportation of dogs and birds from Ukraine, which are in demand in his homeland in Jordan, processing of semi-precious stones, etc. But he did not bring any ideas to completion. I didn’t initially calculate the risks, I acted based on momentary desires, passion and emotions.
Many people do not value their parents' money. Young people live and have fun at the expense of their parents and do not know the value of money earned not by their own labor.
Attitude towards women
Most Arabs are spoiled by their mother's attention, love care and are often selfish. They like to surround themselves with everything beautiful and are avid fashionistas. They love to dress up: beautiful clothes, shoes, an abundance of rings and bracelets. Favorite clients of barbershops: stylish beard, gelled hair, expensive perfumes.
They love to educate, and if they fail, they can use force. They put pressure on me morally. Very hot-tempered. Any little thing can set them off. At the same time, their woman should admire them.
They love to brag about their woman to their friends - they tell them what a housewife she is, caring and a jack of all trades. It is important for them that others admire their woman, and therefore automatically admire them.
It is difficult to offer our men to live together - they are afraid for their freedom. Arab men, on the contrary, want the girl they like to be constantly in their sight. At home, nearby, close by. They are ready to protect and care for her, although they demand a lot in return.
Very generous. If possible, they give the woman gifts, they like broad gestures, and are not at all stingy.
They value independence in our women, the fact that a woman can take care of herself, earn money and not depend on a man as much as possible. In his homeland, women mostly stay at home and do housework.
There is a minus. Monogamy is not for Eastern men. How many times have we had to watch family Arab men woo our girls. When my wife calls, they hang up or don’t pick up. And when they call back, they sing like a nightingale, as they love, and exquisitely lie about why they couldn’t answer. Treason is not considered as such for them. This is the norm in the life of an Eastern man.
About everyday life
My friend definitely won’t eat borscht for three days in a row, although he really loves my borscht. Arab men are very demanding and capricious in everyday life, like children, and are often dependent. If we talk about my man, he can clean and cook even better than me. But it is important for him to see that they care about him and do something for him.
I’m used to Russian cuisine, but my love for hummus and flatbreads remains unchanged.
Loves cleanliness, but not to the point of fanaticism. She understands that we both work a lot and come home very late, so we don’t always have the physical strength to clean and cook at night.
About children and family
My man is ready to coddle with every child, but I’m not sure that he will get up in the middle of the night for his own. This is the wife's responsibility. And the man pampers his child and pays attention to him during short games. All other delights of education fall on the shoulders of the woman.
When married to a Christian, there is no choice in what religion they choose. joint child- he is a priori born a Muslim. Especially if we're talking about about the boy.
My man’s parents are wealthy and ready to support him, but he, having matured, when the youthful frenzy had passed and partying with friends was no longer a priority, wanted to prove to his family that he could get on his own feet.
About religion
I refused to convert to Islam, realizing that I would not be able to wear closed clothes, honor Muslim traditions and be in a “golden cage” at home. He didn’t swear, he accepted my choice. But it is very important for him that his woman shares his religion and his legal wife in any case, she must convert to Islam or be a Muslim initially.
Arabs know the Koran from an early age. They read it like mantras. But my man openly admits that, living among Russians and Ukrainians, he leads an anti-Muslim lifestyle.
His mother, when she came to visit us, brought a hijab as a gift with the hint that I should accept their religion since I live with her son.
A negative attitude towards alcohol remains, despite the love for discos (already in the past) and hookah smoking (this is part of traditions). He doesn't respect it when a woman drinks, even in company.
About future
After living with an Arab man, it’s strange to see how our women treat their Russian husbands. It’s crazy to see the disrespectful attitude and desire to be in charge at times. My views on what a woman should be like in a relationship with any man have changed.
I don’t know where this relationship will lead - Russian girls are more freedom-loving, ambitious and active. I wouldn’t like to be completely dependent on my husband.
But Arab men are like sweet nectar. You can’t get drunk, but even when you drink, it becomes too cloying that you want plain water. But after nectar it seems tasteless. I’m like a tightrope walker halfway: I can’t go back, but the unknown lies ahead...
I confess that I have always been interested in Muslim culture and, of course, I wondered: what is it like? oriental man? Of course, each of us has a certain opinion in this sense, some positive, some not. When many people hear the words “Oriental man,” they immediately begin to imagine harems and unhappy women in burqas. I had a chance to talk with a doctor, a teacher at our university, Belal Abu Azab, and try to find out what is true and what is fiction. He spoke frankly about whether Arab men can marry for love, whether they practice polygamy, what a woman in the family has the right to, why a bride price is needed, and why he himself got married only after 30 years.
An eighteen-year-old Arab youth arrived in Petrozavodsk on October 1, 1992 and has been living here since then. His path is unique, complex, and, I hope, interesting.
Start
Belal is originally from Palestine. His father taught languages in Gaza City, at Al-Azhar University, but once dreamed of becoming a doctor. Therefore, when dad told his eldest son: “You will be a doctor,” this was not discussed. Moreover, the father's word in a Muslim family is law.
It was initially assumed that Belal would study in Germany, but at that time there was a war in Iraq and borders European countries were closed to people from the Middle East. But the USSR accepted everyone.
First Belal came to Kazakhstan, then he studied in Ukraine, in Krivoy Rog, then in Crimea, in Simferopol, but the five-year medical education there... was not recognized in his homeland! Studying and living in the capital were more expensive than in the periphery, and then he chose Petrozavodsk State University.
Belal forever remembered that Karelia met him... first and for October it was enough early snow. Moreover, in the 90s the country was going through difficult times. He lived in a dormitory, like all students; True, during my last three years I rented an apartment with a friend.
The climate, customs, people - everything was unusual and new. When asked if he wanted to return, Belal replied:
There was no talk about this. We were sent like soldiers to war. My father said: come back only with a diploma. I couldn't break his hopes.
And he immediately adds that the family is a fortress and a stronghold: they always supported him and helped him in any way they could.
Family
Belal has six brothers and two sisters. By the way, four brothers are doctors. He keeps in touch with everyone. She immensely respects, honors and loves her father and talks to her mother at least once a week, because in Islamic culture the mother is the most important woman.
Our family has always been very friendly,” says Belal. “My brothers and I never quarreled or fought. We were brought up this way: everyone is for each other.
Marriage
Belal thought about this after thirty. Why not earlier? The answer is simple: according to Muslim customs, a man is obliged to provide for his family, and until now he was still studying. He met his future wife Ksenia while visiting. She was twenty years old then.
“I immediately decided to woo her,” says Belal. - Why hesitate if you are sure that this is your destiny? In addition, extramarital relations are prohibited in Islam. The only obstacle to the wedding could have been the disagreement of parents on both sides, but, fortunately, there were no problems.
Belal speaks about his wife with sincere love and endless respect. He admires her education (Ksenia knows English, Finnish, German and even... Arabic!) and how well she cooks.
An Eastern man claims that the idea that a Muslim wife is an oppressed and powerless creature is a myth.
Both here and in my homeland, a woman can work or stay at home - as she wishes. All the money she earns belongs to her, she is free to use it as she pleases. And if she works, her husband is obliged to help her around the house, and not “demand for dinner.”
At home, Ksenia enjoys wearing national Arabic dresses. By the way, the colors of women’s clothing in Belal’s homeland are black and red. In principle, the embroidery can be anything, but the background must be black.
Weddings and polygamy
An Arab wedding is an expensive affair, and all expenses are borne by the groom's family. I saw the wedding photos of Belal's niece. This is some kind of fairy tale with the eastern princess, everything is so positive and bright!
And if earlier they entered into marriage by agreement, now it is mainly for love. Young people don’t have to talk: barely noticeable movements, fleeting glances - everything becomes clear, and the guy asks his parents to send matchmakers.
Kalym is not buying a bride, says Belal. - This money belongs to the woman, and it will support her in case of divorce.
It turns out that divorce is now possible, and even on the initiative of the weaker half.
What about the notorious polygamy? According to Balal, it is becoming a thing of the past. The main reason for polygamy in his homeland was war. Men died, and there were many more women in the country. Another reason to take a second wife is childlessness. But even in this case, the consent of the first wife is required. In general, according to Belal, children should be born only in a legal marriage, and not somewhere on the side. Otherwise, how can we understand whose they are?
About children
Belal and Ksenia have three children: two daughters and a son. The son is named Suleiman, in honor of his grandfather. Belal explained why it is so important for a Muslim to have sons.
Firstly, the son is the carrier family name which he will pass on to his children. Secondly, he is the protector of his sisters until they get married. And even then he can and is even obliged to intervene if, say, a sister complains about her husband.
As for the future of his children in terms of marriage, Belal says that his son is free to marry a girl of any religion where there are prophets: for example, a Christian or a Jew. It’s different with daughters: they will become Muslim wives so that the family does not lose the Islamic faith. In this case, religion does not give concessions.
Food
During his bachelor days, Belal cooked for himself, mostly Arabic dishes. In his homeland, guys don’t cook (the kitchen is considered purely women's business). Mom, having learned that her son would go to study, told Belal: “Then get up to the stove!” And she taught him to cook.
Now the family is trying to eat food prepared in accordance with Muslim standards (halal). First of all, this concerns meat. Belal buys it from Karelian Muslims who keep cattle. Still prefers national dishes, such as pilaf, couscous, Arabic fish (cooked in the oven and certainly sea).
From Russian cuisine, Belal really likes salads, especially Olivier (in his homeland, it turns out, they don’t know what mayonnaise is), herring under a fur coat, salted red fish, borscht. He eats black bread only “when it is impossible not to eat it - for example, with sprats,” and so he buys lavash. She loves mushrooms and always stocks them in the fall.
Belal observes the thirty-day Muslim fast of Ramadan and is gradually getting used to it eldest daughter. Alcohol is, of course, prohibited in the family.
Hobbies
Belal is interested in everything related to space: he has watched all the feature and popular science films since the 60s and read a mountain of books. He is also interested in biology. From active activities loves mushroom hunting and fishing, which he goes on with his father-in-law.
What I couldn't come to terms with
Of course there is such a thing. For example, Belal cannot understand how in Russia people can abandon their children or treat the elderly with disrespect. He is also depressing by the lack of rigor in raising teenagers, when some of them start drinking and smoking while still at school: “After all, this is the future of the nation, the country.” He also does not like the intensified manifestation of nationalism, harsh statements towards other peoples.
The worst thing that can happen in life is war. In no war there are winners and losers, because in any case both sides lose the most valuable thing - human lives.
About Russians
It seems to Balal that in their friendliness and openness, Russians are closer to the East than to the West. So, in Germany, where he lived at one time, colleagues, meeting on the street, can pretend that they are strangers and not even say hello. In general, people there are very reserved.
Contrary to expectations, I did not hear from Belal a single word of condemnation regarding such a widespread Russian habit as drunkenness. He believes that, as a rule, people do not drink because they have a good life.
Of course, upon arrival in Russia, such things amazed me. Belal recalls with a laugh that when student years A tipsy dormitory neighbor was about to visit the room where he lived with his Arab friends. They were so scared that they barricaded the door with a refrigerator!
Belal notes that while living in Petrozavodsk, he extremely rarely encountered a negative attitude towards himself as a representative of another nationality. He believes that his excellent knowledge of the Russian language played a significant role in this.
How I learned the language
It was not easy, although Arabs have an innate ability to learn languages! - recalls Belal. - Russian is generally incredibly difficult, much more difficult than German! Arabic is also one of the most difficult languages, not to mention the fact that almost every city has its own dialect, significantly different from all the others. Sometimes we don’t understand each other!
In general, this is what helped Arab students: English as an intermediate language, constant communication with Russians and, by some miracle, four Arabic-Russian dictionaries bought at home!
I remember how it took me twelve hours to translate the first page of a biology textbook! - Belal laughs.
Profession
Belal made the decision to become a vascular surgeon in his senior years.
“I have always loved to work not only with my head, but also with my hands,” he notes.
Belal admitted that the attitude towards doctors in his homeland is very different from what he sees in Russia.
Our doctor is a very respected and far from poor person. It's the same in Europe. Once I had some troubles at a German airport. They took me for an emigrant, and the attitude towards them there was far from the best. But when the Germans heard that I was a doctor and worked in a hospital, everything changed before our eyes: “Excuse me, doctor, sit down, should I bring you some tea?”
Belal is not only a practicing surgeon, but also a teacher of general surgery at our university.
At the beginning of this school year A group of young men from Jordan arrived in Petrozavodsk. Belal takes care of them in every possible way, but at the same time believes that it is more difficult to study now, since science has stepped forward.
Of course, some people perceived life in Karelia as freemen, which they did not have at home. Fortunately, most people learn and try their best. Here, as they say, it’s everyone’s choice.
Belal made his choice. He succeeded as a person, as a husband and father, as a doctor in another country, completely different from his homeland. He completely adapted to a foreign culture and at the same time kept something of his own intact.
It seems to me that he was able to do this to no small extent thanks to his openness, open-mindedness, determination, and surprisingly kind and bright energy.
“Charisma (from ancient Greek χάρισμα - “grace, gift”) is the attribution or recognition to a person of a set of properties, traits and qualities that ensure the admiration of her followers, their unconditional trust and unconditional faith in her unlimited capabilities.
This is the endowment of a person with the properties of exclusivity, specialness, supernaturalism, infallibility or holiness. The quality of charisma is traditionally believed not so much to be acquired as to be bestowed by nature or “otherworldly”, mystical forces. Typically, charisma is understood as a person’s emotional and mental abilities, thanks to which he is assessed as gifted with special qualities and capable of exerting an effective influence on people. Some researchers also highlight the so-called sexual-mystical aspect of charisma. They believe that both of these components act together in a complementary manner and, moreover, seem to reinforce each other." (Wikipedia)
The everyday expression “He has charisma” means that a person makes a strong impression on others, they succumb to his charm and are ready to follow him.
(two shining examples- Cem Yilmaz, Tarkan)
Someone has already hinted to me that I am late with my own opinion and assessment of Turkish men, among whom I have been moving for 7 years now).
Starting to think about this topic, difficult from all sides, I realized that I could get into such a jungle from which I would not be able to get out: assessing men and writing my opinion about them in general, and especially about men of a certain nation, is a completely thankless task and I personally wouldn't be able to do it. I, my friends and acquaintances - whom I already wanted to ask about what they actually think about Turkish men - see a completely different social status and a circle than if we were ordinary vacationers in Antalya, rotating among the hotel service (and the same adventure-seeking Turks) or living somewhere in the distant Turkish outback.
The husbands of my girlfriends and the friends of my husband, now I will put it immodestly, are “golden youth”, graduates of the best universities in Turkey, who have seen the world and lived in other countries - I only communicate with them, so I can say that I am not well aware of that other - conservative Turkey , I don’t know those men who beat their wives, I don’t know what traditions and habits men have in the east of the country, all these men are different.
Perhaps I can only highlight some of the traits and character inherent in all of them, from modern Istanbul youth to a shepherd in a mountain village, which come from their religion, upbringing and family life, namely:
- ability to enjoy ();
- attachment to family, willingness to help;
- love of football (this goes along with family));
- cleanliness and grooming, love for trinkets and beautiful expensive clothes;
- emotionality, hot temper (it is because of this that fights, stabbings, murders, etc. occur);
- Turkish men love to take care of their woman, reverently before her; but they can also be suspicious - they don’t like it when their woman turns her attention to other men nearby, be it a waiter, bartender, cleaner (especially) or even a family friend;
- crazy love for children.
I guess I’ll stop there!) If anyone has anything to add, welcome in the comments!
And now, let me present to you my top 20 of those Turkish men whom women adore, men dislike, whom they dream about and go crazy about. The top was compiled by herself based on numerous studies of Turkish women’s forums and previously compiled ratings and lists. I’ll say right away that I replaced some people I didn’t like with people who were more charming and attractive to my taste))
In “charismatic” in this context, I put slightly different properties, may Wikipedia forgive me, and you, dear readers, because to call these men several concepts at once: beautiful, sexy, smart, with an excellent figure, who have achieved success on their Olympus , etc. etc., you understand, there would not be enough space in the initial line)
So, I wish you a pleasant viewing, and at the end my personal bonus awaits you!)
I arranged all the men haphazardly, separately designating only the first three places, because for me in Turkey there are three men, don’t get me wrong)), with whom I would really like to be acquainted in order to communicate, talk, ask that bunch of questions that I have (perhaps I will attribute all this only to the first place)) and take a photo at least once as a souvenir (places 2 and 3)
Haha, yes, and despite my marriage, I have secret desires)
1. Tarkan Tevetoglu.
Previously, I somehow didn’t pay attention to him, I only liked the songs, but with the latest change in his image towards brutality, Tarkan has become irresistible, in my humble opinion and taste!))
I would like to say a lot about him: the fact that he is considered gay, the fact that he was caught on drugs, and other negative things greatly outweigh his other advantages: charity (which very few people know about), non-controversial - he never argues with anyone, always politely avoids annoying and rude questions, secrecy of personal life, unlike many others who are just looking for a reason to promote themselves, kindness and responsiveness (has anyone seen a video where he just happened to meet a nice but mentally ill person who copied his dances on "Turkey's Talents"?); incredibly talented and efficient, great music and voice....
I can go on and on about this for a long time, let's move on to number 2.
2. Burak Özçivit. (Burak Ozcivit)
If Tarkan is interesting to me from all sides, there is only one interest here and it is obvious))
In my opinion, the mustache became his charisma)) He looks impressive with it and this shape suits him)
A very handsome young man!
3. Kıvanç Tatlıtuğ. (Kyvanc Tatlytuu)
I also started liking it quite recently, after the series Kuzey & Guney, where he showed brilliant acting skills and a change of image from a cute sweet boy to a confident aggressive male, oh, sorry, it came out!)
And also, his abs became very famous, which are called one of the best on the Turkish belly). This photo is just the beginning.
By the way, when I asked my husband who comes to mind as one of the most charismatic men, he made a funny face and said his name). But Kivanç really inspires respect, at least for the tenacity and determination with which he pursues self-improvement and success! The same Beren Saat, who began her career at the same time as him in the series Aşk-ı memnu, has not changed a bit in terms of acting growth, while Kivanc Tatlytuu is recognized as a very talented actor. But for some reason Beren takes the rewards(
4.Mehmet Günsür. (Mehmet Gunsur)
The actor became famous after a beautiful but sad film Aşk tesadüfleri sever. Used to live in Italy. To the surprise of everyone, he turned out to be deeply married.) One of the team of actors of the series “The Magnificent Century”
5. Kenan Ece. (Kenan Eje)
I included this actor in the list because in his place one of the sites suggested (İssiz Adam) Cemal Hunal, whose appearance and charisma do not seem worthy of the list to me), let this handsome guy be better. Although there is nothing remarkable behind him, ordinary series, far from rated, but he is simply charming and attractive)
6. Kenan İmirzalıoğlu (Kenan Imirzalyolu)
In 1997 he won the title The Best Model of Turkey after which he was noticed and his acting career began. Many famous and handsome men in the past had this title, including Kivanc. To be honest, I don’t like him at all: neither his type nor his acting abilities impressed me, but we need to take into account his fame in Turkey, the respect and love of Turkish women).
7. Berk Oktay. (Berk Oktay)
Also a newfangled TV series actor, I learned about him while compiling this list. Oh, girls, if you only knew what kind of person I beat off by putting this cute boy in his place! Even Recep Tayyip Erdogan himself! Who compiled these Turkish ratings, probably kapalukhi close to him, excuse me...
Let there be an unknown Berk than the formidable and scary Tayip, ugh aip!)
8. Engin Altan Düzyatan (Engin Altan Düzyatan - his surname sets the mood, of course - “lie down straight” if literally translated).
Women on Turkish forums are going crazy for him! Actor, starred in wonderful parts of Romantik Komedi, I haven’t seen his other films, I’m not impressed with his type and charisma!)
9. Berk Atan. (Burke Athan)
Best model of Turkey 2012, they predict a great future for him, of course, on the acting Olympus, we’ll see.
10. Erkam Aydar. (Yerkam Aydar)
This is not an actor, not a model, but just a modest participant in O Ses Türkiye (O Ses Türkiye) - “Talents of Turkey”, who made it to the semi-finals based on his appearance (well, his voice is also nothing), and with it he impressed even Hadise and Hülya themselves to the point of fainting Avshar! My husband also found it sweet and polite - çok kibar ve efendi bir çocuk)
11. Çağatay Ulusoy. (Chaatay Ulusoy)
Also, a former Best of Model, now an actor, stars in popular TV series. He was recently spotted in a drug bust and was released. Young Turkish girls are crazy about him!) And probably not young ones either. It seems a little sweet to me, despite its size... It's going to "get old"...!
12. Murat Yildırım. (Murat Yildirim)
Who is this and what is this? Only Turkish women know the answer, because I don’t like this type at all) I chose him only because:
He is better than Volkan Demirel - Fenerbahce goalkeeper, brrr...
13. Tolgahan Sayişman (Tolgahan Saishman)
actor, model. In my opinion, his appearance is mediocre; in life he is also a little frozen. But the girls love him, they love him!) In the second photo, where he is young, he looks very much like Tom Cruise, in my opinion.
14. Murat Boz (Murat Boz)
A cute and major singer with a good voice and songs. I like his work, but the way he rocked out on O Ses Turkiye, the way he joked with Hadise and Hülya - I’m delighted with him! If a man has a great sense of humor, you can forgive him a lot!) With his behavior and grins, he very much reminded me of my men - my husband and his brother, who also exchange jokes and phrases with each other, as he did with Hadise)
15. Emre Altuğ (Emre Altuu)
The singer, I can’t tell what his style of music is, it’s more like pop. Safely and happily married to popular Turkish model Chaala Shikel. Handsome! Very nice and looks even more impressive with age. So what if it didn’t grow up, many people here have problems with it) Turkey is a country of the sun, locals here have no need to reach for it, as they do in the northern countries)
16. Cem Yilmaz (Cem Yilmaz)
When I see his face, I can’t help but smile - he’s the smartest, most charismatic and funniest man!) His stand-ups are incredibly comical and very popular, Cockroach himself and many other stars go to them. He also acts in films own production, quite successful in Turkish cinema. Almost everyone loves him!) Married, has a baby son.
17. Tan Sağtürk (Tan Saaturk).
The most famous dancer in Turkish ballet (yes, there is ballet here too, although not so popular), also appears in TV series. His appearance is not typical for Turks, more European, which is probably why Turkish women still love and idolize him) He founded many dance academies and schools for children and simply those who want to learn the art of dance throughout Turkey.
He's quite old now, but still handsome man. I didn’t know that he was with Berguzar Korel - the wife of “Sultan Suleiman” - the actor playing his role in “The Magnificent Century”.
Turkish rock performer, who certainly justifies his place in the top lists: bright, a little crazy), talented and unusual man!
19. Keremcem (Keremdzhem)
Turkish singer, TV series actor, to be honest, I didn’t really want to include him in the list, but I have to admit his handsome face and figure) Let it be.
20. Haluk Bilginer (Haluk Bilginer)
One of the most popular and talented actors theater and cinema, often starred in Hollywood films with a focus on the east and the Turkish mafia)
Absolutely stunning, at this age he looks great and is very active in the female sphere)
Men whose names were added to the post based on comments from female readers)
1. Aras Bulut (Aras Bulut - “Cloud”) Young, but giving big hopes actor.
2. Beyazit Öztürk (Beyazit Ozturk) Actor, showman, hosts his program on Friday evenings, makes hilarious sketches!
3. Burak Yilmaz. (Burak Yilmaz) - a successful footballer who played in the biggest football teams in Turkey, now plays for Galatasaray! (whispers: “Re-re-ra-ra-ra, Galasaray Galasaray cim-bom-bom!”)))
4. Gokhan Özen. (Gekan Ozen) God, how I forgot this handsome man, a courageous copy of Tarkan, but without the spark and charisma that he has)) A singer who leads his lifestyle very secretly, almost nothing is heard about him...
5. Halit Ergenç. (Halit Ergench) Well, here is your Sultan Suleiman, girls! Enjoy)
The last two photos are of his still pregnant wife - Bergyuzal Korel and his son - very cute photo, however, it looks like he’s angry at the paparazzi here)
5. Kenan Işık - (Kenan Işık) is the same charismatic TV presenter of “Who Wants to Be a Millionaire” in Turkey
6. Murat Dalkılıç (Murat Dalkylych) - a pretty young singer!
7. Mustafa Sandal (Mustafa Sandal). It may be familiar to those who do not live in Turkey from a very beautiful song that spread around at one time.
In my opinion, only the lazy have not heard about this.
"The Arabs beat their wives and do not allow them to leave the house"; “Arabs do not allow their wives to receive an education”; “Arabs take several wives”; "Arabs are dirty and smelly"; "all Arabs are terrorists"; "Arabs don't like their children"; "Arabs are crazy Islamic fanatics"; "all the women in Arab countries- powerless, unfortunate creatures”, etc., etc.
The list goes on and on.
Supporters of “protection of women's rights” are especially vehement in attacking the Gulf countries. In fact, in my opinion, the reason for such baseless arguments was largely due to the fact that women wear abaya and niqab (face covering). And no one can even imagine that a woman can wear this herself, at her own request, and even with great pleasure - what are you talking about! How is this possible? Give miniskirts and tops to oppressed Arab women!
Meanwhile, ask any resident of the Persian Gulf: if she were given a choice - to wear ordinary European clothes or an abaya? 99% will answer in favor of the second. At the same time, there will be no angry father/brother/husband nearby monitoring her answer.
I'll try to sort everything out. To debunk the myths, so to speak (PS. Saudi Arabia is a separate case and does not characterize ALL Arabs and ALL Gulf countries. Moreover, I am talking about men, and not about all kinds of hybrids a la Bedouin to the core with some distorted admixture of Islamic moral teachings - mutavva that is).
1. "Arabs beat their wives and do not allow them to leave the house"- oh yes, they’re just killing it. With sticks and to death. Well, okay, with fists, whatever! And to leave the house, you need a special permit certified by the Ministry of Internal Affairs. Yes. And everyone believed. Then they took out handkerchiefs, shed tears, felt sorry for the humiliated Arab women and went to argue and prove, foaming at the mouth, how cruel Islam is and how wild these Arab animals are!
But they will believe it! They will believe this much more readily than what actually exists. But the reality is this (I will give all the examples against the backdrop of the average Emirati family): if a husband tries to even once raise his hand against his wife, giving her a light slap in the face or, worse, beating her, then the outcome of such a willful act will be fraught with consequences for him. Firstly, the wife the very next day (if not the same!) will run to all her numerous male relatives screaming: “He beat me!!!” (even if it is - I repeat - a slight slap in the face). Secondly, his relatives will come back and openly insult him with the whole friendly crowd. And then, if the careless hubby does not correct himself - divorce and maiden name.
Another option is also possible. Instead of running around visiting relatives, the wife will show up at the nearest courthouse and stupidly ask for a divorce. And if there are bruises and abrasions on the body as evidence that he really beat her, then the divorce will be granted almost immediately and immediately.
Now answer me: how many times in Russia do husbands beat their wives, while their wives endure it, forgive everything and are afraid to go and complain to the court?
Oh yes. I almost forgot. The wife can leave the house whenever she wants, just like in the rest of the world (let’s not take backward, remote villages - in all countries there is a lot of such goods). Around 6-7 pm in Dubai you can see the following picture: a huge Infiniti (Range Rover, BMW X6 - whatever you like) drives up to the shopping mall, and local ladies come out with a sense of self-esteem and proud posture, sparkling with all sorts of colors of diamonds and adjusting their satin abayas as they went. Please note, only ladies, often unaccompanied by men.
2. "Arabs do not allow their wives to get an education"- complete nonsense. In Saudi Arabia, the percentage of uneducated people (without higher education) women make up about 10% of total number young population. I’m generally silent about the Emirates - Emirati students study in both the USA and England - in general, in the most best universities world, or in the UAE itself - fortunately, there are more than enough universities here, and they provide decent education. By the way, no matter how much I talked to Arabs, no one wants to marry a girl without a military license. Among my Emirati friends aged 18-20, there is not a single one who did not study at the university.
3. "Arabs take several wives"- let there be truth and let lies perish! :) so, let's take some dry statistics: in the Persian Gulf only 5% of men are married to two or more women. And about 30 million Arabs live in the Gulf, of which 15 million are men. In general, the percentage is negligible; even among sheikhs, few are married to two or more. And the current young generation, in general, has been saying since their youth that they want to marry only one. And preferably, out of love.
I remembered an incident that happened a couple of years ago in Abu Dhabi. One man married a second - well, everything was as it should be: he settled his wives at different ends of the city, each in a separate villa, each with a luxury car, and so on and so forth. But no! Everything is wrong for these Emirati women. One day, the first wife, crossing the road, saw her husband and his second passion. In a fit of rage, she attacked both of them right in the middle of the road, screaming, scratching and behaving extremely indecently :) naturally, the police didn’t let it go so easily - they took everyone to the police station. During the interrogation, the first wife was asked about the motives for her strange behavior, to which she replied: “He is unfair to me, he spends 4 days a week with her, and 3 with me.” The husband was taken aback and mumbled: “But there are 7 days in a week...” However, this did not pity the judge. The woman after legal proceedings They recognized her as right, gave her a divorce + a villa + a car and something from her ex-husband’s fortune.
Now tell me again: what percentage of men in Russia have mistresses? It happens, and more than one at a time... In any case, more than the notorious 5%. Would a Russian judge really begin to give his wife half of his husband’s property just because he spends more time, effort and money on his mistress than on his wife (and this happens all the time)?
4. "Arabs are dirty and smelly". No comments. I have never seen such cleanliness as in the UAE. As I wrote in a previous post, even the smallest stain is a reason to change clothes. In addition, the same gandura is not worn for two days in a row (the husband puts on a new one every day - freshly washed and ironed, and throws all the “old” ones in the laundry - “old” means “worn once”). Add also the fact that Muslims wash 5 times a day, and take a shower after each sexual contact with their wife - that is, every day. I'm not talking about their perfume... :)
5. "All Arabs are terrorists". And again, no comments. In my entire life in the UAE, I have never met a single Arab who supports terror. In general, they somehow don’t give a damn about all this, they sit lazily sipping coffee at Starbucks...:)
I only know that in Saudi Arabia there are such organizations at some universities, but again, this is such a minority and such a shame that it is not even customary to talk about these people.
The statement “all Arabs are terrorists” is at least an indicator of the speaker’s ignorance and lack of education.
6. "All women in Arab countries are powerless, unfortunate creatures"- yeah, and also "Arabs only rejoice at the birth of boys".
Oh, you should have seen how Arabs walk with their children in parks and shopping centers! How they cuddle and kiss their daughters, carry them in their arms and ride with them on children's rides!
I constantly observe the following picture: at the entrance to a store in a shopping center there is a man in a gandura, a child on his neck, a child in a stroller, a child on his side... While his wife, at the speed of light, sweeps away all possible and impossible clothes, bags, shoes, accessories, jewelry. It was here that I saw a clear example of genuine nepotism. For them, family is everything. They are not ashamed to go shopping or to a restaurant with their wife and children, they will not whine that “shopping is purely a woman’s business, why did I give in to you there?!” Families, couples, with and without children walk everywhere, holding hands, arm in arm - in general, they express their pleasure in every possible way that the whole family is together.
Wives are not oppressed by absolutely anything! On the contrary, during our traditional Friday women’s gatherings, my Emirati friends never cease to be amazed by our Russian women - both at home cooking, washing, cleaning (while all Emirati women have housekeepers, and more than one), and taking care of the children constantly watch (and Emirati women don’t have any problems even with children - they have nannies), and the husband will come home dissatisfied, tired, and still force him to work (not a single Arab would think of telling his wife: “Eh, what do you mean to me?” sat on your neck? So go and earn money yourself!"). I’m not at all encouraging everyone to have housekeepers and nannies - rather, this only serves as a response to the hackneyed stereotype about the Muslim wife;)
In general, they feel sorry for advanced and free European women.
By the way, here is a small selection of pictures on the topic "Cruelty and heartlessness of Arab men"(hehe):
And "The lack of rights and oppression of Arab women".
1. Oppressed arab woman driving a Mercedes:
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2. ...and also Porsche...
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3. ...and Range Rover...
4. ...and Porsche again...
5. ...and Audi...
6....and again Mercedes (well, what can you do, Mercedes is the favorite brand of cars of unfortunate downtrodden Arab women)...
Numbering 350-450 million people.
The ancestors of modern Arabs have inhabited the territory of the Arabian Peninsula since ancient times. In the 7th century AD As a result of the work of the Prophet Muhammad, the Arab tribes united and adopted Islam. After the death of the prophet, his successors, the caliphs, conquered significant territories in Asia, North Africa and Europe (Spain). From Spain, several centuries later, the Arabs were completely expelled, and in North Africa and the Middle East, mixing with local population, formed Arab world, which, thanks to the unity of language and religion, still exists. American researcher Michael Hart called the Prophet Muhammad the most influential person in the history of mankind, because he not only created a new world religion, but also founded the state that led to the existence of the modern Arab world.
In North Africa, the Arabs encountered local tribes - the Berbers, who adopted Islam and the Arabic language, but still retain their Berber languages and ethnic identity. The population of North African countries such as Morocco, Tunisia, Algeria are called Arab-Berbers, i.e. Berbers by origin, but Arabs by culture, and often by self-identification.
Next are the most beautiful, in my opinion, famous Arab and Arab-Berber women from different countries Asia, North Africa, as well as from the Arab diasporas of Europe, Latin and North America. The list will gradually expand.
The most beautiful saudi arab- human rights activist, fashion designer and TV presenter Muna Abu Suleiman/ Muna AbuSulayman. She was born on May 16, 1973 in the United States, while her father, a Saudi Arab, was defending his doctorate in international relations there.
The most beautiful Iraqi Arab- singer Rahma Riyadh/ Rahma Riyad (born January 19, 1987, Basra, Iraq).
The most beautiful Kuwaiti Arab- TV presenter Hessa Al Loughani(born February 10, 1982).
The most beautiful Lebanese Arab- singer Miriam Fares/ Myriam Fares (born May 3, 1983, Kfar Shlel, Lebanon).
The most beautiful Palestinian Arab- Queen of Jordan. Rania (nee Al-Yassin) was born in Kuwait on August 31, 1970, into a Palestinian family who fled their homeland due to the Israeli occupation. After marrying Jordanian Prince Abdullah, Rania became a princess, and after her husband's coronation, Rania became queen.
The most beautiful Israeli Arab - Hanin Zoabi/ Haneen Zoabi (born May 23, 1969, Nazareth, Israel) is an Israeli politician, member of the Knesset (Israeli parliament) from the Arab Balad party.
The most beautiful Jordanian Arab- actress Mais Hamdan/ Mais Hamdan. Born in the UAE. Father is Jordanian, mother is Lebanese.
The most beautiful Syrian Arab- actress Sulaf Fawakherji(born July 22, 1977, Latakia, Syria).
The most beautiful Egyptian Arab- actress and model Arwa Gouda. She was born on September 27, 1984 in Saudi Arabia into an Egyptian family (her aunt is the famous Egyptian singer Safaa Abu Saud). Arwa Gouda represented Egypt at the Miss Earth 2004 pageant where she reached the semi-finals. That same year she won the Best Model of the World 2004. Her height is 174 cm, weight 51 kg, figure parameters: chest 86 cm, waist 66 cm, hips 89 cm.
The most beautiful Russian Arab - Shirin Al Ansi(June 4, 1993, Kazan) - actress, singer, winner of the Tatar Kyzy 2011 competition. Her father is Arab, her mother is . VK page - https://vk.com/id11297054
The most beautiful Algerian Arab-Berber- model Shainez Zerrouki/ Chahinèze Zerrouki. Height 177 cm, figure parameters: chest 82 cm, waist 61 cm, hips 90 cm.
The most beautiful Moroccan Berber- singer (other spellings - Mona Amarcha, Mouna Amarcha). Born in Casablanca (Morocco) on January 1, 1988. By nationality she is a member of the Berber Riffian people. The singer released three albums, all of which went platinum. Mona is especially popular in the Gulf countries. The singer currently lives in Dubai (UAE). The work of this Moroccan singer can be attributed to the Khaliji style, i.e. to music for folk dance of Saudi Arabia and the Gulf countries. Khaleeji is danced by women, usually in groups.
The most beautiful Tunisian Arab-Berber- actress Dorra Zarrouk(born January 13, 1980, Tunisia).
The most beautiful filipino arab - Marie-Ann Umali / Marie-Ann Umali- representative of the Philippines at Miss World 2009. Has Lebanese roots.
The most beautiful American Arab- actress Shannon Elizabeth Fadal/ Shannon Elizabeth Fadal. Born in Houston (USA) on September 7, 1973. Her father is Syrian, her mother has German, English, Irish and even (Cherokee) roots.
The most beautiful Colombian Arab- singer Shakira(born February 2, 1977, Barranquilla, Colombia). She is the most successful Colombian singer of all time and the most successful Latin American singer of our time. Full name- Shakira Isabelle Mebarak Ripoll. Shakira has Arab-Lebanese roots on her father's side, and